5 Things You Can Do To Make A Quiet Person Feel Bad

lol

LOL true

Laughed so hard. Nothing has ever been more accurate.

So mean. Hahaha

I like how you alternate between male and female pronouns. #inclusive

I love this, Brandon. #5 is the absolute worst. I f'ing HATE it when people ask me “you're so quiet. What's the matter?” or, “come on, dance, don't just stand there!” (if I'm at a bar). It makes me so uncomfortable. Mostly, it's always acquaintances or people I don't know very well who ask this. My close friends (bless them) know and accept my shyness/quietness for what it is.

#4 hurts more than being asked if you're gay…

As a quiet person, I can definitely appreciate this. Thank you!

Before I read Thought Catalog, I always wanted to be a mean-spirited, generally obnoxious person, but I had no idea how to go about doing so. Now I have a guidebook for doing so with gusto. Thanks, Thought Catalog! The world really needs to hear more things like this.

why do people do these things?

monkey social dynamics

I can definitely relate to all of this.  Especially the group conversation which is a vicious cycle.

I'm not saying anything.  Why am I not saying anything?  Oh man jesus say something.  Now I can't say something, my heart is beating at 120bpm.  Now they think I'm weird or uninterested.  I AM interested, but my mind is blank.  My mind is blank.  My mind is blank.

“because quiet people generally wish to speak only when they feel they have something important to say, responding to the sudden question of why they’re so quiet (to which they never have a comprehensive answer) is both unsettling and difficult to do. “

it is not unsettling and it is not difficult to do. i simply smile and say  ”I only wish to speak when I feel I have something [i find] important to say.” very comprehensive… you seem to understand it as well.

I hate how I totally relate to this.

Most of the stuff I read here are boring garbage, but this is very truthful and it even helped me. I can't tell you how many times people have come up to me asking “Why are you so sad?”. What the fuck? I'm just standing here. Just because I'm not constantly blabbering about boring bullshit like you doesn't mean I'm depressed. It feels great when other people tell me I look sad.

And the group discussions. Some jackass makes everybody stop, gives me that condescending “I'll help this loser out” -look and says something like “let's hear _______'s thoughts on this”. I'm sorry, I haven't formulated an intelligent idea yet. Neither have any of you, but that doesn't stop you from talking about nothing. I'll start talking when I think of something meaningful to say. Chances are that I'm still the first one to come up with something useful.

I just read what I wrote and I this makes me sound like such a cocky, arrogant bastard. Many people see quiet people as arrogant, though. Maybe that's what I am.

I spent about half an hour trying to think of a witty, insightful comment to put here, solely so I could wade in the cavalcade of likes and replies which everyone else seems to get, but I got nothing. 
My sister, sitting across the room from me watching TV, turns to me and says, 'Why the fuck have you been staring motionless at a blank screen for so fucking long?'
'I don't know', I reply. 

Because most of the time it's a lot easier to lie than risk boring someone by telling the truth.

Oh, and that was supposed to be a witty, insightful metaphor about being a quiet person. It's actually a lot easier to say nothing than to risk embarrassing yourself by lying in an attempt to sound interesting to avoid telling the truth. You know.

brb, getting this article tattooed on my LIFE

What about calling them out when they write a whiny passive-aggressive article? Does that make them feel bad too?

As a non quiet person let me explain a little something here.  If you are quiet and don't give your input, decisions will be made without consideration to your needs.  Asking for your input is a polite way of saying, “I will run your ass over with my personal preferences if you don't speak up with yours”, and sometimes, it means, “I respect you and I'm afraid that you will get drown out in the sea of voices that don't have a problem being vocal so I will give you the floor before the issue is concluded without consideration to you”.  Introducing you as the” quiet person” is sometimes done so because your vocal friend wants people to know how cool you are and doesn't want people to think you're a dick because you're not comfortable being overly vocal- maybe it's not an awesome approach, but maybe you could try interacting a little so YOU don't look like a dick- quiet often reads as arrogant.  People ask you what's wrong, because you don't freaking talk and they'd like to gauge whether it's because you are regularly quiet, or if you're  freaking psychoand about to go all postal on everyone  and since you don't really voice your opinion or feelings, how would they know?  It pretty much sounds like you need padded underwear to keep you from being so butthurt about people trying to be considerate to you.

I always like it when someone turns to the quiet person and says, “SHUT UP, (Name)!” when they've said nothing… because they've said nothing.

oh, that's your answer for everything

I think this article is mostly addressing the frustrations of shy people in a casual social environment. Surely if a “decision needs to be made,” one would be more likely to voice their opinion if there is a sense of immediacy.  But if some asshole who thinks he's my friend ropes me into a asinine conversation, I'm reticent to speak unless I have something valuable/insightful to say.  Many times, it's not about “consideration,” it's merely ineptitude.

yes. i feel terrible now.

6. Introduce the quiet person to a group of quiet people because you assume they will be more comfortable. Not true and now the most awkward and uncomfortable conversation will be attempted.

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OMG, I was *super* shy when I was younger and I used to hear everything you just wrote on here. As I got older, I got less and less shy (I don't really know how) and am usually seen talking like a “normal” person. 

Every now and then though, some asshole will say something like that to someone else and it immediately makes me want to drop kick them. 

This article is pretty much my life in a nutshell. I find that usually I do not speak much because the topics are not something I'm interested in discussing, know nothing about, or because I think my opinion would offend people.  I guess it says a lot about myself if its always those three reasons :/

have been asked #1 and #2 multiple times, maybe verbatim to what you wrote. nice job.

brandon, we can go somewhere and be quiet together ;)

I had vivid memories of the past ~20 years of my life while reading this. Nice one, BBBSSSGGG.

I nominate this for the inevitable “Best of Thought Catalog” compilation.

I can relate to this so hard. Quiet people > people who talk just to talk. I know there are those that fall in the middle but they are few and far between, in my experience. 

I'll be waiting for Pt. 2: 'YOU SHOULD SMILE MORE!'

I cannot like this enough.  THIS IS MY LIFE

My colleague at work is like that after two months I've decided that talking to the wall will be more fun then sitting at lunch with her. Scratch that, I would like to throw her into the furnace and see if she makes any sound at all. 

“Most people think things are not real unless they are spoken, that it’s the
uttering of something, not the thinking of it, that legitimizes it. I suppose
this is why people always want other people to say “I love you.” I think just
the opposite – that thoughts are realest when thought, that expressing them
distorts or dilutes them, that it is best for them to stay in the dark
climate-controlled airport chapel of your mind, that if they’re released into
the air and light they will be affected in a way that alters them, like film
accidentally exposed.” – peter cameron

Every point here has happened to me, many, many times. Insightful.

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Have you considered that perhaps the expectation to make tedious “fun” conversation that you're placing on both yourself and her causes *her* even more frustration and anxiety? And that she probably wants to throw you into a vat of acid and watch the flesh dissolve and fall from your contorted, screaming face, just to see if it shuts you up?

Fantastic text. It made my blood boil just reading about it, especially point 4.

I think I will send this to everyone I know.

As a quiet person let me tell you, if I have something to say, decision-making situations included, I will.
When it has happened to me that I have been asked for my input, it was usually during everyday discussions where a friend went “WHY DON'T YOU SAY SOMETHING *nudge nudge*” in front of everyone, and the most concise answer I can manage is always “I'm fine with listening, leave me alone”.
And even if I want to say something and I am too anxious to do so, I'm absolutely fine quietly beating myself up about it; I STILL don't want your help.

I believe that you mean well, but what a lot of you non-quiet friends don't realise it that it is PATRONISING AS FUCK (caps for emphasis) to assume that I “need help” getting myself heard. I didn't ask for your help.

Why people are like that so determinated? We have ourselves intuitively those 5 thing.We only have to feel Why do they lose that?

slightly OT but not entirely, i hate the fact that my introverted-ness generally comes off as rudeness to people i don't know.

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I actually agree with this, even as a shy person.  I can personally attest to relatively minor decisions, things that I may have a preference on but aren't going to ruin my day one way or the other, being made because I may not want to deal with the speaking up and saying “Nah, I'd rather go to this restaurant and not that one.”  Sure you can eat Chinese tonight, but you actually wanted Mexican, but you won't say it.  You won't speak up until the benefits of not doing the minorly inconvenient act outweigh the costs of overcoming the brief social anxiety (like if we're talking Chinese vs live squid).

And a lot of the examples above could also be attempts to INCLUDE the quiet person, to give them a chance to take part when they otherwise wouldn't or couldn't (more likely).  Of course that actually depends on whether the people making these actions are actually a dick or a genuine person/friend.  Specifically, being introduced as quiet could take the quiet person off the hook by not having to worry about people's perception of their shyness.  No need to rack your brain over conversation input – which lots of people apparently relate to, given my other comment – because the tension has already been released.  Now you can just relax and be yourself and, because of this, be MORE productive in a conversation.  I've never heard of someone else doing it on another's behalf but I've surely done it for myself.

I've been dealing with being situationally quiet (groups, new people, sober) for most of my life and although things are getting better, it's a topic I've obviously got a lot of thoughts on haha.

This is great!

This made me laugh. Excellent job!

I love this article! These things basically happenned to me every day for the first 18 years of my life.  I'd also like to add a sixth thing that is very annoying, when people remark sarcastically that I've been so talkative or that I “just can't shut up” when I have said nothing the whole time.

Including others in conversations is one of the duties of a host.  Shy/quiet people need to stop misterpreting kindness and concern.  Also, silent ones, stop excusing your lack of social graces with unwillingness to talk trivia and MAKE AN EFFORT, fer cryin' out loud.  People aren't interested in having important conversations when they are getting to know each other.  They are interested in lightness, banter, flirtation.  If you intend to emit only leaden vibes, why are you socializing?

I am actually shocked at how much of a douche you are.

what.

You honestly have no clue, do you?

I completely relate to every one of the points here and I bet i'd relate to part 2 as well.
“You look so much better when you smile. “
Or makes some lame joke then says, ” It's good to see you smile.”

“It feels great when other people tell me I look sad.” I can't tell if that line is sarcasm or not but it's pretty funny.

Spot on, my friend.

It's sarcasm. People might as well throw a giant turd at my face when they say that, because that's what it really feels like.

You sit there and judge her negatively for being so quiet, and now you place underlying expectations on her.  First off, conversation is a 2 way street, so if you and her are not talking, that means you aren't either buddy.  Secondly, instead of judging her silently, you could gently inquire or try to discern why she is so quiet and come off as an interesting and trustworthy person that she can feel comfortable around, then she might be more talkative.  Thirdly, just because you're angry since your moves aren't working and you aren't getting anywhere with her doesn't give you the right to take it out on her.

Yes or you could just give a middle ground response that involves telling the half truth in some mysterious “beat around the bush” manner.  Or, just say the truth and if it bores them then who gives a f**k what they think.

Well i understand some people takes a longer time to open up, but I have run out of conversational topics. But I'm not whining, I just don't eat with her anymore that's all, or get a bigger group of people to go with :)

I wish there was even a conversation to begin with, then maybe your suggestion of drowning in acid would have been valid!

The quite people should be thankful that someone is talking to them. I TRY to talk to quiet people because I can sense that they feel uncomfortable or that they might not know what to say. I try to help them loosen up and get to know everyone else. I take a risk by putting my neck out there trying to HELP someone and now im being told that it is insulting?! Forget this then I guess quiet people are just self centered a**holes…

No, I think you need to reconsider that you're the one being the asshole. Sure, some quiet people want help getting to know others. But telling them that they need to lighten up/asking why they're so quiet/ask them if everything's okay constantly/ introducing them as a quiet person doesn't seem helpful. It seems rude.  Because it is. Nobody wants to be thought of as the odd one out.

Don't worry. You're not alone. Every day of my life I have to put up with people thinking I'm in an angry mood or that I'm a total jerk. And, why? Who knows. I feel like I'm doing pretty well until someone tells me otherwise.

uh, notice how this article didn't say anything about how quiet people find it annoying when people try to talk to them. i dont' find it annoying in the least & often feel happy that someone else is doing the approaching so that i don't have to… as long as they don't open their conversation with any of the above statements.

right. we're the assholes for not changing ourselves to suit you; clearly demanding that YOU make a little bit of effort to accommodate US is horrible.

yay, way to miss the point. it's not “kind” to bombard a person with inappropriate personal questions. “quiet” doesn't equal “unhappy” or “serious” necessarily, the only reason i think extraverts assume this so much is because they're applying their own standards for “looking happy” to somebody else, and that doesn't always work. 
and i actually PREFER to have important conversations or learn more about a person and their interests when i first meet them, instead of wasting time rambling about random superficial things that nobody actually gives a crap about.

i actually don't mind it when people ask “what do you want to talk about” because of the reasons you stated. the only reason i might mind it is if we're in a huge group and then suddenly everyone's eyes are on me because their attention was drawn to me suddenly.

I really dislike how silence is considered awkward, quietness is considered rude/mean/uninterested/bored/etc, & that being super talkative is “the norm.” I spend so much time thinking of ways to try and “make” myself more “normal” & outgoing because if I don't put on that act people will inevitably misunderstand, and then socializing just ends up being stressful. But how do I meet people etc without socializing? Sigh.

I’ve experienced all 5.
#c00l

omg this is so true

All of these “considerate” questions could rightly be considered passive-aggressive as well. Hmm.

“Why are you so loud? Why do you talk so much? Are you desperate for attention?”

I’d love to say this to someone why asks me why I’m so quiet.

Yep, that might be true! But I grew up as a quiet person if i didnt know u I didnt speak! But what you dont know some quiet people look at loud people and see how much of an idiot they make they selves out of! I mean they say any an everything and dont feel embarrassed! And somepeople think all quiet people are sweet and innocent<wrong! Because when i was 15 i got so tired of someone asking why i was quiet in front of a group of people why,why why,etc! And quess what happened it didnt make me embarrassed to everyone suprise they was shocked to actually see me jump on this person and beat them silly! From that day on i still remained quiet when i wanna and more people was speaking and i was still being me of course. But all along i am an observer and on the outside of school i was the talker and hanging out with plenty of friends and my friend didnt go to this school, and they had no clue! Ha Ha!

Im quiet have fun and has an enjoyable life, and quess what im a (wonder) because they wonder what do they know about me! And i like!

But you won’t.

Idk if anyone said this, but here’s another one:
People waving their hand in your face and saying i’m staring into space. that happens to me a lot -_-

Shy Ronnie doesn’t like that. Sometimes quiet peoploe are just quiet. I mean, come on. HA HAAAAAAA

Shy Ronnie doesn’t like that. Sometimes quiet peoploe are just quiet. I mean, come on. HA HAAAAAAA

I’m a shy person and I HATE when people do this things to me.

I’m a shy person and I HATE when people do this things to me.

That’s only the case sometimes. Some times people want to just be alone. Others just like to. And other times it’s annyoing. Just depends on the situation.

I will do that!

I’m also a shy person too.

If you think Brandon’s mother is a bitch and Brandon is son of a bitch , give me a hell yeah lol

seriously fuck you some people have extreme psychological problems stemmed from trauma, you want to make them feel bad again because they were affected? some people don’t know how to share things that no one in our present society wants to hear and they don’t know how to just brush it off like your everyday stresses. you tell me what the fuck would you talk about with people if you have/have had serious problems and the majority of people openly hate and bash anyone and anything that brings them down off their happy cloud? some people keep their pain inside through silence so that you don’t have to face the much more awkward situation of actually knowing them and what they have lived and currently live through. it’s an attempted courtesy, so have some courtesy in return and stop trying to make quiet people feel bad, the world doesn’t revolve around your fucking comfort.

Just because someone is quiet doesn’t mean they’re shy, they might just not give a crap about you and want to be left alone. Maybe you’re the asshole when you talk to them cuz it’s annoying for some people.

And you are a bully. Now fuck off

Maybe you should rename this Article to :”how to be an Harrassing Bully towards quiet people”

Me too! -__-

You loud people are the self centered assholes. Fuck off.

Experienced all five. I just cried after reading this cause I didn’t know people were trying to make me feel bad all along. Way to go, I hope you’re happy now..

Asking in an obnoxious tone of voice “WHY ARE YOU SO QUIET” as opposed to actually talking to them and treating them like a normal human being is not helping, it’s just being a huge fucking cunt.

Looool… you made me laugh. I even have tears. But this shows doesn’t it… quiet people are soo witty! 

Hahahaha! I took this article as being very facetious. I don’t think Brandon is actually giving us advice here.

Maybe quiet people have to suffer through discomfort, but they also get to enjoy being “so nicceeee,” mysterious, ambiguous and generally held unaccountable for their unvoiced opinions. It took me a long time to realize it’s possible for a quiet person to think everyone in the conversation is an asshole. Before that, I thought quiet people were better than me. Now, half of the time I think they just dislike me because I’m not quiet. Slowly, though, I’m realizing that quiet people don’t always have opinions of loud people.

The most important thing to remember in the fight for Quiet/Loud Understanding and Equality is that there are just as many reasons to be quiet as there are to be loud: you can be self-conscious, an asshole, genuinely enjoying yourself, needy, or have serious psychological problems. I see a lot of quieties in the comments, I’m just sayin’ don’t hate outright on the loudies. We can be sensitive too, y’all.

This article is ridiculous, when people ask for your input or wonder if there is something wrong, it’s cause they care, so just realise that, look at it differently and take it as a compliment (i.e. they give a shit about you). I can understand that it might make you uncomfortable, but seriously people have to deal with things that make them uncomfortable all the time, just deal with it then and maybe explain to the person that your a quiet person and am content like this – you guys really have to stop playing the victim.  But it is polite to make conversation around new people, so try to make an effort. I think the difference between being quiet and socially disfunctional, is that if you are quiet that’s how you are normally, but you are still able to move into conversation etc at appropriate times, if you can’t do that it’s a skill that you really need to work on having as it’s a necessary skill in this society.  

interesting because when people do these things, they are just projecting their discomfort onto you.  they are uncomfortable that you aren’t talking, so they try to make you uncomfortable as well.

shut up

Even after reading your other comments, I don’t get how mine offended you. The first thing I said is that I understood the article to be facetious. The point I was trying to make is that you can’t really judge anyone based on how quiet – or loud – they are because that trait doesn’t necessarily indicate what someone’s other traits are (in my personal experience). So if you disagree, then maybe it’s better to just keep on judging quiet people???

You’re so pathetic for teaching people how to make a quiet, innocent person who has never done anything to them, feel bad. You should be ashamed.

This article is pointing out the things people do to make quiet people feel bad, so they can realize what they’re doing and stop. Learn to read into things better.

You’re an idiot. This article obviously isn’t actually a list of things people can do to make quiet people feel bad. It’s to make people realize what they’re doing. But you probably didn’t even read the article. Try thinking before you spout filth next time.

People actually say these things to quiet individuals all the time. The author is pointing this out so others can be aware of it. The title is appropriate.

You are so oblivious… the author is trying to point out the things people say to quiet people so that his audience can be aware of their actions & know how it makes quiet people feel. Most people that say those things don’t realize the consequences of their actions. Re-read the entire article, not just the bold points, and actually THINK about what he’s trying to say.

It’s fine that you take your time to go up to someone and talk to them, but really? How would you like it if a group of shy people came up to you and asked,”why do you talk so much?” as if you were unnormal. It would make you feel so unworthy as a person.
I hope you realize that most quiet people don’t want to be quiet. It’s hard to explain to someone who can’t understand. Pointing out that someone is quiet is really just pointing out their flaws.
Stop being such an ignorant asshole and stop thinking you’re better because it’s easier for you to talk to people.

Um excuse me but when i get asked why im quiet i dont mumble retard. Im quiet because idiots like you annoy me and i dont need to hear my own voice.

….oh……it is teaching things …im so sorry :( about earlyier post next time i will read better

Coward

I guess some people don’t read the social anxiety tag, which would let the reader be aware of the actual issue at hand. All in all this was insightf and I’d love to expose this to some of my friends who can’t get the hint about my “quiet” ones.

I always get people telling me to shut up or calm down/stop being so loud. I’m never sure how I’m supposed to respond to that one.

If you write an article like this you can’t expect everyone to read between the lines. I could barely read the second paragraph myself before getting angry.  When you know personally people who are depraved enough to write something like this with intention to do harm, an article like this can become a double edged sword.

you clearly are incapable of empathy. Also, it’s not always a matter of improving, some people have serious anxiety issues, look up social anxiety disorder. The point is, pointing out that someone is quiet is redundant and isn’t going to change the fact that they are quiet, so seeing as it does nothing and doesn’t serve to make them more vocal AND it hurts people’s feelings, why bother pointing it out? It’s like if someone went up to you and said why aren’t you quiet? Redundant comment. 

how about learning how to write an article in a way that will allow people to understand your intentions

 Wow Paul, you really come across as a jerk.  How can you have the nerve to refer to other people’s feelings as ridiculous? This is exactly the kind of arrogance that quiet people hate having to deal with.  The arrogance of people like you is ridiculously obnoxious!  So quiet people should change who they are because “it’s a necessary skill in this society.”  Think again.  We get tired of people telling us that we need to change who we are in order to fit in or seem “normal.”  Why don’t you try being more accepting of people who are different from you instead of expecting them to bend to fit your societal norms?  Nobody is playing the victim.  People just get sick of others acting like something is wrong with them when they are simply being who they are.  You sound like one of those guys who would constantly ask a quiet person why they’re so quiet or what’s wrong with them (in a loud and obnoxious manner no doubt), while never catch the subtle clues that the person thinks you’re a total jerk.

You sir are a jerk for writing such a horrible article!! It’s essentially a “How-To Bully People” article!! You should be ashamed of yourself for stooping to such a level!! If this was meant as a joke, to be funny, well it’s NOT CLEARLY STATED!!!!! I suggest you remove the article ASAP!! You are promoting bullying and harassment!! It’s people like you who need to grow up and stop hurting people! It’s also people like you who are the reason why these “hurt people” feel bad about themselves, have low self esteem, have depression, etc. Yea sure it’s up to those “hurt people” to try to avoid those situations and help themselves out as well as have a good support system of friends and family, but it doesn’t mean bullies should STILL bully!! It doesn’t make it right!! Have a heart and remove the article. Thanks!

No the title is extremely misleading! Hence why for the people taking it seriously. It was a big mistake on behalf of the author to NOT include a a warning before the article. If he had put one there, not so many people would be upset. Just saying is all.

 Are you an idiot? The op isn’t encouraging bullying. He’s doing just the opposite. He’s informing others on what makes quiet people feel bad, and why it does so, so that they know and can avoid doing it.

Well this is pretty much bullying a quiet person because the title for number5 just says it.  ’make fun of the quiet person for being so serious, then tell him to lighten up’. Well how can a quiet person just lighten up when they’re being made fun of? If he/she can lighten up so easily, they would’ve done it ages ago. It’s just their personality.  So be it. Leave them alone >: ( 

Ok, there is a right and a wrong way to do sarcasm. This is the wrong way. I really think this was a good starting point, but it reads like a middle school girl wrote it for her mean girls club.  As a quite person I do appreciate the pointing out of annoying questions, but this article really does make the quite person look more like an asshole than the other way around. 

To all the anti-quiet people out there-
 a person wiser than myself once said, (Plato) ” Wise men talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something”

As I was reading your article, I had trouble deciding whether you were instructing people HOW to make quiet people feel bad or if you were simply trying to make others realize what makes a quiet person uncomfortable so that they can avoid it. You sound like you know what you are talking about because everything you have written is true. People have already done more than 3/4 of that to me. I’m pretty sure not everyone does it to be mean. Anyway, I saw myself as a quiet person in your article and it was actually a pretty funny and dead-on article. I’ve noticed some people feel uncomfortable when I don’t talk and there are times when I just can’t shut up. I had never realized others noticed my discomfort, so now that you have helped me define what are “5 Things you can do to Make a Person Feel Bad”, I will work out quick and appropriate responses for each of your 10 situations. By the way, are you a quiet person too? If not, then how do you know how these situations make them feel? Could you (or did you) write about what goes on inside a “loud” person’s head? 

ok this article is just no girl no. im really quiet in skool and i constantly get asked these questions. im quiet because i cant deal with assholes i wish to stay away and avoid drama. at home im very loud and shit tho. im a happy person. u cant make me feel bad fuck hu in the ass with a big HRED dildo my good sir.

All of the things mentioned happened especially when i just entered secondary school. My old school mates were introducing me to our new friends that way. When someone asks me why im so quiet..im so annoyed and wish that person dies/forgets me/ dissapear from each others’ minds..blahh! Im like why do i have to get attention for being quiet, why do u have to say that? it just makes me very self conscious. Yeah they are real assholes.. I feel terrible i wanna yell at them but im gonna cry afterwards. I did cried and i was just embarassing myself in front of them.

Why the fuck would you want to make someone “feel bad”? Why the fuck aren’t you quiet motherfucker? 

to whom ever wrote this article…. I certainly don’t want you to be my friend. I don’t  know the reason why you want to make quiet people feel bad. I wonder If you are always dependent on input of others and quiet people is not giving the attention you want that is why you want to make them feel bad.
It  bothers me why there some people hate quiet people. I’m quiet myself but it depends on situation, setting or group.I’m quiet because I don’t want to say the bad things in my mind because I know that not everything I think is right. After so many years understanding extrovert people I realize that socialization does not require critical thought. I only need to say YES or LAUGH or AGREE with them is the only way of communication to extrovert people. Apparently in socialization if you have different opinions you are removed from the group so it’s just better to just go with the flow and agree with everybody else.
So I conclude that people like the person who wrote this article is dependent on attention and people who agrees with him/her because they are a bunch of self-entitled and selfish cunts. So quiet people remember if there is a loud obnoxious fucker talking a lot, just respond MINDLESSLY: WOW, OH MY GOD, I CAN’T BELIEVE THAT, YOU GOT TO BE KIDDING, YOU ARE SO RIGHT AND LAUGH AS REAL AS POSSIBLE to avoid offending them.

 Calm down.. I don’t think the author meant it that way. This was obviously written in a sarcastic manner. It’s not a guide for being an asshole to quiet people, he just used that format to better explain how people can make quiet feel bad without noticing. It’s written in this manner to make people who do these things look bad, not a how to on picking on shy people..

 I think you and I are the only ones who actually read the article..