Narcissists want you to believe that even your best efforts are not good enough. The reason they do this is so they can keep you scurrying about for their approval, but never quite receiving it.
Let’s be friends for the narcissist means let’s be friends — with benefits. Don’t fall for the “let’s be friends” ploy. Doing so will land you straight in La La land, where you will spend months, if not years, tolerating their multiple sex partners, disappearing acts, and your making monthly visits to the doctor’s office to ensure you haven’t contracted an STD.
I became convinced that if I just tried harder, things would go back to the way they were.
Gaslighting is perhaps one of the most insidious manipulative tactics out there because it works to distort and erode your sense of reality; it eats away at your ability to trust yourself and inevitably disables you from feeling justified in calling out abuse and mistreatment.
They don’t make plans according to your schedule, they just let you to wait around all day for them and automatically expect that you will be ready and at their service when they come calling.
I’m aware this list is pragmatic and often brutal so don’t say I didn’t warn you.
In reality, the narcissist wants nothing but constant validation, and someone who is always willing to give it is a perfect match.
Each time you go out with friends, there’s the potential for a photograph. Even the smallest of rendezvous’ such as getting ice cream will most likely warrant a selfie.