How To Love A Girl Who Has Never Loved Before

Elliott Dunning
Elliott Dunning

This girl is truly special. She is beautiful. She has gone through crush after crush, with no success. She has had a few glimmers of hope here and there, but she has never been in love. She has no idea what it feels like to truly be loved.

If she lets you into her life, know that this is a rare occurrence. Not because she is a prude or because she is shy, but because, she knows her worth. She knows what she deserves.

So, if she lets you into her life, know that she thinks you are special. And know that this is a big deal for her.

When you take her out on dates, don’t expect her to immediately dive into her life stories. Don’t assume she will be her usual talkative self. She is nervous. She is probably self conscious. Remember, this is a huge deal for her. This is special.

When you kiss her for the first time, make sure she is ready. She doesn’t just kiss anyone. Make sure you kiss her sweetly, and gently. She isn’t a delicate helpless girl, but in this moment her heart is pounding uncontrollably. Her knees are probably shaking with nerves. So, make sure you do it right. When the time is right.

When you ask to be her boyfriend, don’t freak out when she hesitates. This has nothing to do with you. Trust that she is only thinking this hard about it because she likes you. She truly likes you. And she’s never been this close to love before. She’s going to say ‘yes’. Just give her a moment.

Show her that she should trust that it was a good thing she waited this long. Show her you were worth the wait. And that all the years without love were worth it because now, she has you.

Show her that you are the real deal.

Show her you aren’t going to leave when things get serious like the rest of them. Show her that she wasn’t stupid for waiting for love. Show her that, this was the smartest decision she could make, because it led her to you.

And when you fall in love with her, which you will, say it. Don’t hold back. Look into her eyes, and hold her close, and say those three words. And watch her eyes open wide, and watch them gleam with tears of joy. Watch her look into your eyes, awestruck that this is finally happening.

This is what love feels like. Now she finally knows. It’s when you don’t hesitate to say it back. And she found it with you.

Hear her say those words back to you. And say it again and again, so she can taste and touch love in the palm of her hand. Cherish this moment and most importantly, cherish her. You are the first person she has ever loved. And if you’re lucky, you’ll be the only one. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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