Virgo and Libra: Friendship, Sex, and Love Compatibility

What kind of connection do Virgo and Libra have? Can they trust one another or feel good enough to open up to one another? Let’s dive into the Virgo and Libra relationship and see if it’s any good…

Virgo and Libra Compatibility


The Virgo Zodiac 

Virgo is ruled by Mercury, the planet of communication and wisdom. Virgos are efficient, reliable, good at communicating, and good at getting the job done. Although they can always see the potential in others, they can also be overcritical and picky.

Virgo is symbolized by a virgin, or a woman, which represents fertility, harvest, and wisdom. The symbol looks like an “M” with a slight curve, which can symbolize the intestines. As the virgin symbol suggests, Virgos rarely engage in casual relationships. They are modest and want to develop a strong emotional connection and intimacy with a loyal partner.

This is a mutable sign, which means Virgos can go all over the place and tailor themselves to different situations in life with ease, as long as they can analyze the situation first. As an earth sign, Virgo is practical, grounded, and dependable. They will keep their guards high and have a hard time opening up at first, but once someone breaks through their walls, they are going to be a ride-or-die friend. 

Personality Traits of a Virgo

Virgos are perfectionists. They set high standards for themselves and for others, so they tend to be very critical and judgmental. They can be flexible if they need to be and if they can analyze the situation first. Virgos try their hardest to look like they have their lives together and won’t necessarily like to sit back and relax and enjoy the show — they’d want to take over. They want to be someone their peers admire, not someone who is pitied.

A Virgo man is the type to settle down quickly, especially if his partner is loyal, willing to settle down, and is as organized as long as his partner is as organized and efficient as he is. He needs someone who will delve into in-depth conversations with him, who will bring new ideas to the table, and who will challenge him intellectually. A Virgo woman is intelligent, capable, and practical in love. You need to develop a deep, emotional connection with her before she will consider making you a permanent part of her life. She might seem like she gets upset over small things, but this is because she notices the little details. Don’t lie! Communication is key.

Virgo: Moon, Rising, and Venus Signs

In astrology, every person has a sign in the moon, rising, and Venus placements of their zodiac chart. Your moon represents your inner self, your rising is how people see you when they first meet you, and Venus represents love and beauty.

If your moon is in Virgo, you’re passionate about people and things but will want to analyze it all to make sure it’s worth being invested in. You’ll break things down until you get to the good, useful stuff. You’re a loyal friend and a great team member who strives for balance, stability, and routine.

If your Venus is in Virgo, you are very nurturing and devoted in love. However, you’re not the best at showing you care–you’re not big on grand, romantic gestures. Instead, you’ll show your commitment and loyalty. If you nag your partner about something, that’s your way of caring about others and wanting the best for them. 

If your rising is in Virgo, you come across to people as an organized perfectionist. You’re hyper-aware of your surroundings and the moves you make. If you feel uncomfortable in a situation, your body will react accordingly–nerves, stomach ache (which makes sense because the Virgo symbol represents the intestines!) 

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The Libra Zodiac 

Libra is ruled by Venus, the planet of love and beauty. Libras love the finer things in life and care deeply about appearances. Libra is also associated with the Greek goddess Themis, who ruled over justice and fairness and who was known to have connections with Venus and Aphrodite, which makes sense since Libras are ruled by the planet Venus! 

Libra is the only sign of the zodiac that is represented by an object–scales. This symbolizes balance, harmony, and justice. They strive for balance in every aspect of their life. They also want justice and for people’s voices to be heard, but they don’t like confrontation or awkward situations themselves and will avoid them at all costs.

As an air sign, Libras are people pleasers at heart. They like luxurious things and will aim to be an environment with those things. As a cardinal sign, they are natural-born leaders. They are charming, good conversationalists, and social creatures.

Personality Traits of a Libra

Libras are daydreamers. Libras are creative beings. They want life to look good and feel good, by any means. It’s in their nature to try to make everyone happy, including them, which is why they’re big flirts and good at conversation. At their best, Libras are cooperative, balanced, and social. At their worst, they are passive-aggressive, manipulative, will hold grudges, and will avoid confrontation.

The Libra man is quite charming. He’s deeply romantic and will want to spoil you! Although he’s attracted to intelligence, he’s also searching for the most beautiful partner. He will also probably put some TLC into his appearance…he’s much shallower than he leads others to be. The Libra woman is a good listener and good conversationalist. She is also very picky and won’t let herself fall in love with someone who doesn’t fit her standards (financially, physically, emotionally). If she is committed to you, she will show every side to her, both the good and the bad.

Libra: Moon, Rising, and Venus Signs

In astrology, every person has a sign in the moon, rising, and Venus placements of their zodiac chart. Your moon represents your inner self, your rising is how people see you when they first meet you, and Venus represents love and beauty.

If your moon is in Libra, you often express your feelings in creative ways, through writing, painting, or other artistic forms. You crave peace and balance in every aspect of your life–love, friendships, career–because it makes you feel good. However, you don’t always deal with your emotions in a healthy way. You can be manipulative and passive-aggressive at times.

If your Venus is in Libra, you’re a people pleaser at heart, and won’t rest until you make a good impression. You make friends easily, but you strive for a friendship with beautiful energy and a solid bond. When it comes to love, you strive for a beautiful, committed, loving relationship.

If your rising is in Libra, you will find that people are drawn to you and your charm. You are a social creature, outgoing and good at conversation. You want to be around people who make you look and feel good just as badly as you want others to feel good when they’re around you (that’s just the people-pleasing quality you have).

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Virgo and Libra Compatibility: Friendship

Virgo and Libra love making smart choices and thinking rationally, but both signs have different ideal outcomes for those choices. Virgo is an earth sign who makes their choices in order to achieve productivity and perfection, while Libra is an air sign who makes their decisions in order to achieve balance and relaxation. Nonetheless, these signs are likely to form an important intellectual bond. There is a mutual appreciation for organization, aesthetics, and culture.

These signs might struggle to find common ground at times, especially if they are fighting. Libra and Virgo both avoid confrontation…even though they’re both good at communication. Virgo can be too finicky or Libra can be too controlling–they just need to respect each other’s differences.

Virgo and Libra Compatibility: Sex and Love

A Virgo Libra couple might realize quickly just how incompatible they are, especially in the bedroom. As sexual partners–well, they’re not really attracted to one another. Virgo is pretty reserved when it comes to sex, while Libra is more likely to be adventurous in the bedroom, especially if it could create a good balance in the relationship.

When it comes to emotions, however, these two will struggle. Their relationship could end simply because they have a hard time talking about how they feel. If there’s any flaw in this Virgo and Libra relationship, no one will address it. Every couple has fights, and if/when Virgo and Libra reach that point, it will be messy: Libra gets manipulative and passive-aggressive and Virgo gets pretty critical and judgmental. If they respect each other or the relationship enough, they will address the problems in a rational way. The only way a Virgo Libra relationship can work out is if they are open to opportunities to learn from one another.

Zodiac Compatibility With Virgo or Libra

Zodiac Compatibility: Virgo

Virgo wants someone who has a similar way of communicating because if not, they’ll get anxious and feel as if they’re being left in the dark. They want a stable and secure partner who can ease their anxieties and make them feel as if they can be wholeheartedly themselves. Virgo’s the type of person who cares a lot, and they want a partner who will appreciate their critical nature because they know they care a lot.

Zodiac Compatibility: Libra 

Libras appreciate balance, and if there’s one thing they absolutely need in a relationship, it’s that. There needs to be a fair and common ground in the relationship, a good balance of having sex, being social with each other and others, having alone time. They match well with someone who will share their love for the finer things in life, because if not, they will learn quickly that they just won’t ever see eye-to-eye.

Virgo and Libra: Relationship Compatibility With Virgo or Libra 

Virgo man + Libra woman

This type of Virgo and Libra relationship will be quite calm and harmonious…for the most part. There’s a subtle peacefulness to their sexual relationship — while they may lack passion and excitement, they’re still quite sensual and tender with one another. However, she won’t be able to handle his criticism, and he won’t tolerate how persuasive and flirty she is.

Libra man + Virgo woman

This kind of Virgo and Libra love match will be a bit peculiar. He is very affectionate and romantic by nature, and she is compassionate and sensitive. However, they still have many problems to face. At their worst, she will be very judgemental and critical of him and he will be very manipulative and passive-aggressive.

Virgo woman + Libra woman

This kind of Virgo and Libra pair can be described as “opposites attract.” Still, they won’t last very long. Virgo is a realist, not a romantic. Libra needs romance and beauty in their life in order to thrive and survive. Both Virgo and Libra will try to avoid conflict at all costs, but won’t be too successful. They just need to try to understand one another’s differences in order to make this work.

Libra man + Virgo man

Libra’s need for sensual, beautiful things might not match well with Virgo’s practical, reserved nature. At their worst, Virgo is critical and judgmental, while Libra is indecisive and manipulative. If they can’t communicate about their differences and find common ground, they will end the relationship unsatisfied.

Virgo compatibility with a Virgo: 

No matter if it’s a Virgo man and woman, man and man, or woman and woman, a Virgo-Virgo relationship will have a shared sense of security, trust, and understanding. They’re not super strong in the bedroom, since they’re both so reserved sensually and sexually. However, this zodiac sign is great at communicating and understanding that their criticism and need for perfection is an act of love.

Libra compatibility with a Libra:

No matter if it’s a Libra man and woman, man and man, or woman and woman, a Libra-Libra relationship won’t be super strong. In this love match, they will share some good moments, appreciating the beautiful things in life, but will also face a lot of ugliness: their stubbornness, passive-aggressiveness, avoiding confrontation, and a lack of trust. This will conflate into the bedroom, making them both feel less confident.


January Nelson is a writer, editor, and dreamer. She writes about astrology, games, love, relationships, and entertainment. January graduated with an English and Literature degree from Columbia University.