The Brutal Truth About What You Need To Do To Win Them Over, Based On Their Zodiac Sign



(March 21st to April 19th)

You need to blow their mind.

Aries need a constant source of intellectual stimulation, and they will be hard pressed to find happiness with someone who they don’t think is just a little bit smarter and wiser than them. Aries love to be leaders, but they are also drawn to people who are also leaders. If you want to win over an Aries, you have to be able to teach them something or show them a way of life they’ve never known before.


(April 20th to May 21st)

You need to inspire them.

Tauruses are such growth-driven people that they are often drawn to those who help them reach their highest potential. The spark will die quickly if a Taurus is not with someone who inspires them to do better, reach farther, achieve more and be more. Tauruses thrive in relationships with people they admire as much as they love.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

You need to ground them.

Geminis are almost always in need of other people to help them think through problems and stay present… they are otherwise too “all over the place.” Their friends and partners help them stay focused, goal-driven and inspired. Without someone to ground a Gemini, they will keep floating from relationship to relationship.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

You need to commit to them.

To a Cancer, loyalty is a deal breaker in a relationship. You either need to be willing to talk about marriage on the first date, or forget being together at all. Cancers experience a lot of pain from partners who are not as committed as they are, and they want to avoid this at all costs. The more willing you are to be serious, the more they will be interested in you.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You need to respect them.

Leos thrive when they feel proud of themselves, and they thrive in a relationship with a partner who admires and respects them and lets them take the lead. Leos are almost always best in positions of authority (especially when it comes to their personal life) so if you want to win over a Leo, you need to show them that you’re the kind of person that will let them take the lead.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

You need to believe in them.

Virgos are so driven by their insane ideas about how they want to make the lives of the people they know (and the lives of people in general) as good as they can be. To win over a Virgo, you need to be the kind of person who will talk through their irrational fears and then show up at the launch of their new coworking space (or funky Halloween party) or probably both in the same weekend, TBH.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You need to convince them that you’re soulmates.

Libras are such overwhelming romantics (and idealists, at that) they usually don’t want to waste their time with anybody but the most overwhelmingly passionate love. You basically need to convince a Libra that you are made to be together. Libras will never settle for anything less than the most perfect love they can find.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

You need to want only them.

It’s probably not a surprise to hear that Scorpios tend to be a little rough and a little jealous… and beneath all of that aggression lies someone who is secretly a little insecure. To quell that worry that they aren’t good enough (and ultimately win them over for good) you need to convince them that you only want them, and you are not going to ever want anybody else as much as you want them. The more secure they feel with you, the more they will open up.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

You need to charm them.

As the charmers of the Zodiac, they are likewise drawn to people who make them laugh, think or adventure. You need to pull out all of the stops with a Sag: you have to be well-rounded, interesting and fluid in your time together. You basically just have to intrigue them to the point of wanting to spend more time with you.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

You need to stimulate them.

Capricorns are often plagued by their complacency, and are often most drawn to people who help them feel more adventurous, self-confident and willing to take risks. To win over a Capricorn, you need to be unique, motivated and someone who will push them to do things outside of their comfort zones. Caps are notoriously square… they crave partners who help them round out.


(January 21st to February 18th)

You need to understand them.

Aquarians think so differently than everyone around them that what they crave in a partner is someone who will finally understand them. Aquarians want someone who will believe in their visions, complement their goals and push them to go forward; they don’t need another skeptic in their lives. Often, Aquarians will act out and assert themselves as too dominant when they fear that they will be consistently misunderstood. They need you to ground them and show them that they are not the oddballs they so fear they are.


(February 19th to March 20th)

You need to go slowly with them.

Pisces are so inclined to just jump into relationships whenever they find someone who even moderately interests them (they really wear their hearts on their sleeves). However, this is what ultimately makes them go through relationships so quickly as well. If you want to win over a Pisces, you need to show them that you’re in it for the long haul, that you’re willing to take it as slowly as you need to and commit completely. Consistency is sexy to a Pisces. Show them you aren’t afraid of it. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

January Nelson is a writer, editor, and dreamer. She writes about astrology, games, love, relationships, and entertainment. January graduated with an English and Literature degree from Columbia University.

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