“I was married previously and had a daughter, but he was a virgin. He was my college sweetheart and we got back in touch a couple years after I got divorced. He was still a virgin. He wanted to wait until marriage to have sex and I was totally fine with that because that’s what he wanted.
After a year of a wonderful sexless relationship, the wedding night rolls around and I can’t wait to get me some and…his penis is upside down? Not really upside down, but pointed strait down while hard. It hurt him to have sex missionary style. I’m a pretty blunt person and stupidly said ‘I don’t think it’s supposed to do that. You might want to get that looked at.’ Poor guy. He was probably so excited to make love to his wife for the first time in his 28 years and I tell him there’s something wrong with his wiener.
He left me after 5 days. True story.”
“We were too tired to do anything after the wedding. We kinda planned not to until we actually went away on our honeymoon. Even then, when we finally got to do it.. It was okay. Uncomfortable for her, and difficult for me – a bit different than we had hoped, since we waited so long.
But we slowly got better at it. We have the rest of our lives together to get better at it. She ended up getting pregnant just 4 months after we got married. We’re at 2 and (about 1/2) years now, and its infinitely better.
I’ve always heard that there’s some sort of rule that you’ll have more sex your first two years of marriage than you will the rest, but unless one of us dies, that’s a lie. We have more sex now than we ever did before. It took time and practice, but we understand it a lot more than when we first started, and its very enjoyable.
The biggest thing waiting did for us was help us set our priorities straight. We waited 7 years to get married, and it allowed us to learn a lot about each other before we got married, had sex, or moved in together. We know each other as well as we do ourselves – I can answer her questions before she finishes the sentence, and I usually know what she’s thinking, simply based on all the time we’ve spent together.
Doing what we did was difficult, but many things in life worth it are difficult.”