Elizabeth Stone

5. If you start feeling like you’re not living your own life.

The less information you have about your ex, the better.

3. You’re Going Through the Motions

They support you and the relationship when you aren’t in the room.

3. Don’t neglect YOUR people or force your lover to neglect theirs.

People run toward whatever they were lacking in the failed relationship without taking the time to evaluate what they want.

They really seem like they want to meet up but each time you hint (or outright suggest) about seeing them in person, they stall.

Sometimes it seems like there’s just not enough hours in the day for the responsibilities you do have, let alone optimizing anything.

You feel like you’ve put in too much time to give up now. Once we start a relationship, stopping feels like we’re losing our investment.

Spending time together has stopped being a priority. Time for each other feels like it has become an afterthought.

Whether to dump them or lean in and try harder to make things work is one of the most difficult decisions that anyone ever has to make

In an attempt to avoid sounding clingy or needy, you might have prepared exactly what to say, but in spite of your careful planning, all of your messy feelings come spilling out.

You are curious about their new flame and binge on comparisons. It’s downright puzzling why they don’t just return to you instead

The obsession with the what-ifs is not healthy or helpful. It also serves as a powerful temptation to keep you stuck in the past.

Dating can feel like an endless grind where you beat your head up against the wall again and again, hoping that you’ll finally succeed in meeting someone great.

People don’t recognize that in order to meet the right person, you’re probably going to have to meet a lot of people who aren’t right for you first.

Your ex might have said SOMETHING about why they broke up with you, but usually it’s not really that satisfying.

He cares about your happiness, tries to help and is there for you.