Becca Martin

True love shows generosity.

“My uncle was suppose to be in the Twin Towers on September 11, 2001 for a job interview, but he didn’t get the call back. He was so upset he didn’t get the job, but it was definitely a blessing in disguise.”

I didn’t feel the connection I read about having. I didn’t feel sparks fly, even though I felt nerves when I saw you or turned down the dirt road leading to your driveway.

Give up alcohol and try drinking more water. You probably need to anyway.

You start to think about what’s next. You start to picture yourself in different places. You mindlessly start scrolling through job searches in random towns just to see what you can find.

The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is not giving up. If you fail, try again. Ask for help and get feedback from whoever is willing to give it to you.

Your trust is gone. It felt like it was just ripped away from you without warning, almost like the sharp pain of a paper cut slicing open your finger, but a million times worse. It’s just gone.

You can say you’re sorry until you’re blue in the face, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you mean it. Until you no longer repeat those actions you apologized for that will be when you are truly sorry.

When we have a conversation we want to get to know you, the real you. We want to have something engaging and meaningful to talk about. Deep conversation is what it’s all about.

It took me a little while longer to realize this, but it’s almost naïve to think people really care about what you’re doing. Unless you’re a celebrity people aren’t generally keeping tabs on you and constantly talking about you. If you have a successful moment they might congratulate you, but people are trying to figure their owns lives out at the same time.

ll you have in life is your name, which is your word and your integrity. How you live, not what you say, is who you really are. Live and enjoy every minute because life goes by so fast.

You can throw yourself a pity party, but don’t expect others to join in. Everyone might tell you what you’re going through sucks, but no one else is experiencing it first hand besides you.

Now time has passed. My wounds aren’t as deep; they’ve merely healed themselves completely over time. I don’t hate you anymore, I don’t think you’re ugly and I don’t think I’m better for him than you.

Trust is what makes a relationship successful. If you don’t trust someone without proof by creeping then the relationship isn’t working.

“I needed to hear your voice.”

Progress is not possible without change and change is inexorable. You can’t stay in college forever. You can’t expect your friends not to leave. You have to accept their decisions and support them.

I would want all of my family there, and a complete surprise. I want him to get down on one knee and use my full name. But for me the surprise part is the most important.

Don’t be selfish with her, because she deserves so much more than that. Being with someone you don’t love is cruel, especially when you know she loves you. It’s holding her back from being free and finding real love.