Often you’ll hear people say that the woman must have done something to cause him to cheat or that she wasn’t satisfying his needs etc etc. And while this is true in some cases, when in comes to serial cheaters – the problem lies squarely with the offender, not the victim.
You know how having a bad fight with a significant other or family member feels so draining, you might as well have thrown back six tequila shots? That’s what they dubbed an “emotional hangover.”
It feels like heartache. The kind that gets deep into your bones.
If we’ve come to believe that our dreams are not possible and that life holds nothing but pain for us, we will tend to create experiences that validate our viewpoint.
Everyone likes to be reminded of his or her good features and flirting can be a means of achieving this.
1. We are very emotionally complex.
You assume that when it comes to following your “gut instincts,” happiness is “good,” and fear and pain is “bad.”
I have found that what keeps the high achievers from becoming truly amazing is not a lack of ambition or resources, but a lack of understanding how their greatest asset works: their mind.
Evolution is an interesting thing.
Statistically, the chances of your ex being a sociopath or narcissist are just incredibly, incredibly low.