The first step is self-awareness that these games are being played on an unconscious level.
It can be argued that cities, like people, all hold distinctive personalities. To find which one best matches your own personality, take the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and then check out which city jives best with your values.
Regardless of whether or not you are interested in psychology, there is an idea in the realm of personal psychology that will follow you to the workplace and wherever else you go.
You push away the people who care for you.
The more you want something involving more than yourself, the less likely it seems to work out.
They create indelible marks that get imprinted on our lives. Or as my father calls it “scars on the brain.”
Hate yourself for still caring about the person you aren’t supposed to care about anymore. Shame yourself until you’re completely suppressing everything you feel.
Frustration is what leads us to the next natural step, equilibrium, and greater inner peace within our day to day living.
What would you stand for if you knew that nobody would judge you?
But we avoid feeling anything because we have more or less been taught that our feelings have lives of their own. That they’ll carry on forever if we give them even a moment of our awareness.