I Like Your Flaws

how is you constantly raise your own bar? LOVE this

fuckin’ good, this one is.

This is beautiful.

Gorgeous.

This is perfection.

“It’s like you honestly don’t know how wonderful you are, it’s like you have no idea”my FAVORITE line <3

Baby, the way you pick your nose when you get nervous, turns my heart to jelly

“I like them because they make you human, and humans are easier to love than photographs and illusions and ideals”

Truth (and also why I can’t find celebrities attractive).

ohhhh, all of this. All of it. I can’t even pick a favorite line. I love it all.

How do you feel about stretch marks and broken capillaries? Because I’ve got plenty of those to love.

embrace me

This should be a Stevie Wonder song

I found it okay.. you could’ve written a better piece on this topic. Could bring out more emotions.

sarcasm, right?

Truth.

Who are you to say how her feelings should manifest in writing? Some single, caustically bitter human?

This is perfect because it’s her EXACT feelings. It’s also probably flawed and that makes it beautiful.

SHUT UP!!

Stephanie you’re an artist!

this was next to flawless.

My main flaw is Thought Catalog makes me want to stab myself with an ice pick. Date next Friday?

uhhh chill the fuck out? Anon is right, this is an old topic and this article doesn’t dredge any new material from it

Truth that it’s her favorite line? Yeah, probably.

:( ahora me siento triste … ♥

tl;dr version: “I like that your shame and embarrassment and compromised physical
appearance afford me such superiority over you as to label your features
as flaws. I want to know precisely what hurts you so I can continue to
keep you right where I’ve got you: beneath me.” I haven’t read something this abysmally condescending in ages.  Author sounds like a garden-variety sociopath.

Amazing

“One man’s trash is another man’s treasure.”

You are my favorite writer on thought catalog

haha the underlying subtext of the article

Is there ever anything new on thought catalog?

I really liked this. Unfortunately, I always feel like a terrible person for liking the flaws

since “flaws” are based on pefection and no-one is “perfect” isnt it safe to say you like them for who they are?  (” i like the way one of your legs is shorter than the other so when you walk it looks like your trying to climb stairs…”)  or did i miss the point?

not sure the writer is the sociopath here, hon =/

like :)

This is possibly the sweetest thing I’ve ever read. :) It made me smile, one of those things that accentuates the beauties of this world. Thank you for writing it.

I do think you missed the point in the minor, while getting it in the major.
I think the subject wasn’t so much the author’s perception of flaws, as commenting on the silliness of the things the object is ashamed of in themselves. If that makes sense?

“It’s like you don’t know how terrible it is, it’s like maybe how you’re able to love someone like me. (Perhaps that’s your biggest flaw, perhaps that’s the one I love most.)”

So much this.

haha wow I didn’t read it that way at all the first time, but reading it again, through the lens you’ve provided, I can totally see that scenario. Nice perceptive reading! I’d like to think it can be both ways, but the more I consider what you’ve said, the more I wonder if reveling in someone’s “flaws” can really only lead to your conclusion, a kind of pitying affection.

yawn.

@jesus i think i heart you. not because you’re clearly perceptive and caustically funy. but because you are flawed. or something.

funny. blerg.

Nice blog.  But the last bit made me sit up. “humans are easier to love than photographs”.
unfortunately we tend to love – or lust over – photos more than real people.  even, and especially of ourselves.  again, I know what you’re getting at, but as a photographer, consider the power of photos, the wedding photos, an image of your lover kissing another etc.  we think in images, and photos are powerful thoughts.  a summit photo when we climb a mountain in a way is more important than the rest of the experience, the same way a wedding image can – in a manner of speaking – represent a marriage (or a reason to stay in one).  worth a thought I reckon.

this is beautiful..simply beautiful.. :)  loved it :)

This was the most beautiful piece of writing I have ever read. I began to cry while reading it because it so perfectly described the way I feel about this guy who I am in love with. You have an amazing talent to be able to connect so deeply with emotions. Never stop writing, you have a gift. 

Why am I crying?

This article is absolutely stunning! Love it!

Steph G, you never cease to move me.

Love isn’t purely worship of assets. No human is flawless and thus a great part of love is finding endearment in tiny imperfections. It truly saddens me to find that there are people out there that wish to quell a persons blemishes rather than loving them fully and shamelessly. I pity you. 

so-hooooo condescending.

What about money. Is the guy abysmally rich or flawlessly poor?

So glad someone else saw what I saw in this. There are parts that are sweet and true, but the overriding tone is one of condescension and powertripping. “I like seeing you miserable and believing yourself to be a piece of shit, instead of confident of your own value as a human being. Your painful shyness and lack of self-esteem is utterly adorable to me.”

Parts of it I like, parts of it I didn’t, some I didn’t understand. I didn’t understand the skin part. And a lot of it was way to cheesy, but I loved the second to last paragraph. I didn’t like the parts where you just put three words next to eachother (like in the last paragraph, except there it’s crossed out).

This is beautiful, you’re a very talented writer! X

I loved it

Flawless writing :) 
♥

good flaws

I too like your flaws. 
You’ve expressed it very well. Gr8 work. Keep it up. 
:-) 
Rakshita 

You might like this as well:My mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun (Sonnet 130) by William ShakespeareMy mistress’ eyes are nothing like the sun;
Coral is far more red than her lips’ red;
If snow be white, why then her breasts are dun;
If hairs be wires, black wires grow on her head.
I have seen roses damasked, red and white,
But no such roses see I in her cheeks;
And in some perfumes is there more delight
Than in the breath that from my mistress reeks.
I love to hear her speak, yet well I know
That music hath a far more pleasing sound;
I grant I never saw a goddess go;
My mistress when she walks treads on the ground.
And yet, by heaven, I think my love as rare
As any she belied with false compare.

This is probably the loveliest thing I’ve ever read…

I’m in LOVE. 

Hi, all people,
Many many happy returns of the new year 2012

EXPRESSLY

I like the sleep left in your eyes :) That part is so poetical, it’s perfect for a song line!

this poem gets a 4 out of 5 nougats rating. Yes, thats right, 4 out of 5. It is goodness incarnate with a touch of love flavoring. Tightly delicious like a huge vat of freshly stirred nougat. Keep it up champ!

this is incredible. there are so many talented people on this little planet. <3

I love it. even more so, because i have been meaning to write something on the same lines. I love it.

I’ve been reading this over and over for a while now.
It makes me happy :)
Thank you for sharing.

Love it! Honest, raw, and inspired… so warm!

Lovely. Instantly engaging. Thank you for sharing!

No, I’m sorry, this isn’t sweet or cute or uplifting. It’s creepy and condescending. You like how she gets inappropriately angry. You love how she likes the worst music. You enjoy seeing her insecure and vulnerable. Maybe she’s upset because you seem to think her feelings and opinions are cute things to be cooed at instead of the legitimate feeling and opinions of an adult? 

I think this is someone you’ve tricked yourself into thinking is perfect, and now you’re too insecure to think you deserve her. You’re pushing her off that pedestal you built for her, saying, “Look, you’ve got a lot of flaws, but I like that about you (even though no one else will).” 

You love her ugly toes and stupid dance moves and dandruff, but you don’t have to. Human beings are full, complicated creatures, with good and bad and okay parts, and true love reflects that. It’s not an all-or-nothing affair, it’s life, and one day you’ll wake you and realize you hate all that stupid skin in your bed, and that that’s okay because you love her just as much as you always did. 

gay

That fact that you, Stacy, believe the person referred to in the verse is another woman says a lot about the filters through which you are obviously processing. There is no obvious reference to the sex of the person being talked about. You are assuming it is written about a woman which betrays your bias not the author’s. 

No, I’m sorry, this isn’t sweet or cute or uplifting. It’s creepy and condescending. You like how he gets inappropriately angry. You love how he likes the worst music. You enjoy seeing him insecure and vulnerable. Maybe he’s upset because you seem to think his feelings and opinions are cute things to be cooed at instead of the legitimate feeling and opinions of an adult? 

I think this is someone you’ve tricked yourself into thinking is perfect, and now you’re too insecure to think you deserve him. You’re pushing him off that pedestal you built for him, saying, “Look, you’ve got a lot of flaws, but I like that about you (even though no one else will).” 

You love his ugly toes and stupid dance moves and dandruff, but you don’t have to. Human beings are full, complicated creatures, with good and bad and okay parts, and true love reflects that. It’s not an all-or-nothing affair, it’s life, and one day you’ll wake you and realize you hate all that stupid skin in your bed, and that that’s okay because you love him just as much as you always did.

Take your stupid fucking impressions and get the fuck outta here. It’s abundantly clear that you’re pushing off more of your own issues in how you have interpreted this. And it’s a bit ironic that you should accuse the author of condescension — have you read what you’ve written?

Love the underlying PASSION of this piece. Great :-)

Maybe you’ve never loved anyone to the point of loving their flaws, the things that make them human.  Just because you acknowledge a flaw doesn’t mean that you are acting condescending or trying to imply that you are perfect, it is just saying that we all have flaws and that we still deserve love in spite of them. 

I sure hope so ;)

Truly one of the best articles I’ve ever read on here. 

“I like the tufts of hair you forgot to shave and the way you smell when you haven’t showered in a while”

- mmm swoon.   Why am I sneezing!?

“It’s like you honestly don’t know how wonderful you are, it’s like you have no idea.” Love this…

Eww, sexist language.

Perfect man

This is lovely. Thanks for sharing.

This is beautiful. Thank you. 

i swooned all over this article. this sounds like the guy i’m in love with

Sigh. Wonderful.

 Hell it sounds like, me. I often wonder what she would say if she had the words to convey each thought, if her words were as flowing and graceful as she is.  

I really enjoyed this BUT….I’m just curious as to the use of commas, because for some sentences I felt there should have been commas separating some words. I’m just curious as to whether or not there was a meaning behind it. =]

It’s not just writing.. It’s ART. There are no rules or specific expectations in art. And this exactly what makes this so beautiful. Writing, writing, and writing without having to follow any sort of structure or rules. The writer is the artist, the artist chooses how to present her work. Comas/no comas it’s her choice. 

This honestly just sounds like a case of schadenfreude. Why would you like to see the person you love feeling embarrassed and insecure? It’s one thing to enjoy someone’s flaws but this read like someone truly psychotic obsessively enjoying another person’s emotional and social discomfort. 

Which is fine. It’s just not what one usually considers a “beautiful” love story. 

And I certainly don’t think that it is art. And before I get flamed, I’m entitled to my opinion. When you put stuff on the internet, that’s what happens – people post their opinions about it.

 Please spell commas correctly…

I wish I was lesbian for you, Strphanie.

-your Biggest Fan

I hope someday you will be in love the kind that make you understand when steph is saying. 

Cliche.

I don’t think this piece is condescending at all.  In fact, I think that opinion is negated through the following lines:
“It’s like you honestly don’t know how wonderful you are, it’s like you have no idea.”
“…it’s like maybe how you’re able to love someone like me. (Perhaps that’s your biggest flaw, perhaps that’s the one I love most.)”
“…humans are welcome to their imperfections because if there’s one thing humans can do perfectly, it’s love. Humans can love, they can do it flawlessly.”

Muy bueno!

When you love someone, you love their flaws. Forgive and forget most of them, don’t take notice of them, sincerely find them cute… not make a bucketlist of them, tack on an ‘i love you’ and post the list on the internet for everyone to see.
This is not romance. No one wants a list of all their flaws, no matter how romantically you try to put it. Go ahead, give this card to a woman on your anniversary and she’ll be crying her eyes out.

Some of us write. We write, not to share what we feel to who we feel it for nor to boast to the world; we write to allow  the exhalation of thought and emotion from our mind. Yes, sharing something so intimate on the internet will risk receiving negative commentary but I think the public should keep in mind, although we all love differently, perceive differently, react differently, with varying levels, the saying: “To each their own” comes to mind. Let Stephanie enjoy hers.

Cheers to you Steph, I hope to endure such love one day.