When We Love Without Expecting Anything Back

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When we love without expecting anything back, we try. At least we try; there’s always that. When we love without expecting anything back, we put ourselves out there and stand in the spotlight, even if it seems like we’re walking on a fragile tightrope half the time, wondering if this will be the moment we slip or fall. And then we muse that it doesn’t really matter. What’s the point of hiding? What do we really gain?

When we love without expecting anything back, we don’t ruminate on the fact that they are not in love with us, that their emotional dispositions do not align with ours, that we seem to care just a bit more, which is reflected in our persistence. They don’t initiate delicate, sweet prose, and dole out complimentary thoughts. They’re not messaging us lyrics from an obscure, yet moving, song, like we do – we’re curious if the words brighten up their morning, or on a deeper level, resonate something more. But of course, they don’t read in between the lines. Leave that romanticism to our end of the ether connection.

When we love without expecting anything back, we don’t mind their flaws or their difficulties or their past mistakes, because we want all of them anyway, entirely whole. We wear our hearts on our sleeves; we give ourselves, we convey our honesty, and for that, we’ve done enough. Actually, we’ve done more than enough; we’ve erased the chance for regrets, for those pesky ‘what if’s within our own frame of mind.

When we love without expecting anything back, we allow ourselves to authentically be, and we invite vulnerability to strongly take its place alongside of us. We pine, we yearn, we smile, we miss, we cry – all in the name of being human. And to still feel how we feel and share those feelings? Why, that’s nothing to shudder at or be ashamed about. That’s fucking brave. That’s bold. That’s the antithesis of fear. TC mark

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  • http://lifelessonsandinspirations.wordpress.com lifelessonsandinspirations

    Reblogged this on Life Lessons and Inspirations and commented:
    True story.

  • recherchedreams

    Reblogged this on The Lucky and Blessed.

  • http://silverrcloud.wordpress.com Alimee Juliene

    Reblogged this on silverrcloud and commented:
    I think it’s okay to care for a person more than they actually care for you, and not demand it back.
    Because, you already love yourself. Like it’s the first step. You only want that person to feel the same way because no one does. But that’s not the case.. you yourself is there.

    I feel like… if a person loves you back, that’s nice. If that person doesn’t, still nice. There’s nothing to lose. We all act as this fragile thing when we get unrequited, but that’s because we forget who we are. We feel like everything depends on them the moment we get rejected. But, like those haters, who are they to tell you that you’re not good enough for them? We can be happy with our own selves. They just make us happier. So if they don’t feel the same way, it’s okay.

    The action of giving yourself more to any person is actually brave. Quit thinking and hoping they’ll return the feelings. Just go feel it. Take control. Love, but never lose yourself in the process. It’s a favor for you and the other person.

  • Clare

    Reblogged this on Memento Mori and commented:
    “When we love without expecting anything back, we allow ourselves to authentically be, and we invite vulnerability to strongly take its place alongside of us. We pine, we yearn, we smile, we miss, we cry – all in the name of being human. And to still feel how we feel and share those feelings? Why, that’s nothing to shudder at or be ashamed about. That’s fucking brave. That’s bold. That’s the antithesis of fear.”

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