Shahida Arabi

Shahida is a graduate of Harvard University and Columbia University. She is a published researcher and author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse and Breaking Trauma Bonds with Narcissists and Psychopaths. Her books have been translated into 16+ languages all over the world. Her work has been featured on Salon, HuffPost, Inc., Bustle, Psychology Today, Healthline, VICE, NYDaily News and more. For more inspiration and insight on manipulation and red flags, follow her on Instagram here.

The 12 Laws of Power, According to Narcissists

The 48 Laws of Power is one of the most famous books of all time. But did you know that narcissists have their own laws of power that they operate on? Here are twelve of their laws of power, explained by a researcher. Law #9: Leave a brutal impact so they always remember you, even if they did not desire you in the beginning.

5 Bizarre Myths About Single People That Need to End – According to Research

Research is showing that marriage, especially for women, does not result in greater happiness long-term, whereas single and childfree women are one of the happiest demographics. Thousands if not millions of women across social media speak out every day about “giving up” on dating and leaving the dating scene because they find the current dating pool toxic yet find themselves under the microscope under society’s scrutinizing gaze, taught to blame themselves if they choose to stay single or have high standards. Perhaps it’s time to turn our focus toward why women are finding the dating climate such an inhospitable place to pursue love, rather than shaming single women for their standards.

Narcissism May Not Be Caused By Childhood Trauma, Research Finds

“It was their childhood trauma!” “They’re just deeply wounded.” Perhaps you’re familiar with these claims when it comes to narcissism. There is a certain myth that gets propagated frequently about the origins of narcissistic traits as well as full-fledged Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). A researcher specializing in narcissism reviews the evidence that shows that childhood trauma may not be the originating cause of narcissism.

The 6 Sexual Mind Games of Narcissists

A wealth of research indicates that narcissists may be prone to engaging in sexual aggression and can even be sexually coercive. But what do their manipulation tactics when it comes to physical intimacy actually look like?

Red Flags of Narcissistic Therapists: Survivors Share Their Horror Stories

Many enter the helping professions due to their empathy for others and a genuine desire to improve their lives. However, no field is exempt from narcissism and fields that grant a certain level of power and authority tend to also attract con artists that are hungry for validation, control, and access to vulnerable populations to manipulate and exploit.