After a chaotic eleven episodes, the Love is Blind season finale finally premiered yesterday and viewers could already tell it was going to be a hot mess given the last episode left us on the cliffhanger of Chelsea and Jimmy’s riveting conversation about the upcoming wedding. What many viewers of the season finale didn’t seem to catch was the true nature of the crazymaking conversation that took place between Jimmy and Chelsea at the beginning of the episode. In the beginning of the episode, Jimmy expresses how Chelsea has done everything he has ever wanted in a wife and how he knows for certain she’s his person. He sets up this conversation like a pro, digging for details on whether she feels ready to be married rather than transparently telling her his own thoughts – pulling the focus off his own behavior and onto hers. This leads Chelsea to take a pause, because she’s led to believe he’s all in, and now she has to make a decision if she agrees. Unbeknownst to her, however, Jimmy drops the bombshell that he’s not ready to go to the altar. However, that’s not even the worst of it. After spending a romantic day of wedding planning and adventures together where Jimmy made it seem like he was ready to commit to Chelsea, and after asking Chelsea if she was ready to be married in a tone implying as if he was too, he then proceeded to launch into a rather disorienting spiel blaming Chelsea for potentially “ruining” his female friend’s reputation.
Let’s get real: Jimmy was the one who decided to introduce Chelsea to the female friend of only two years that he slept with. He was the one who put his friend at risk for public visibility. If anyone “disrespected” his friend, it was him for pulling her into his shenanigans in the first place. Rather than inviting family members or close loved ones to meet his fiancé Chelsea, he implicitly manufactured a love triangle (seemingly without informing Chelsea ahead of time what she was getting into) placing both Chelsea and his friend in an embarrassing and vulnerable spectacle. No matter what some viewers may think of Chelsea, this is a stunt that borders on humiliation and no one would appreciate walking into a situation like this (especially if they were unaware) where they were about to meet a “friend” their fiancé had slept with, only to be sworn to secrecy afterward. Such “secrecy” would have guaranteed that Chelsea would have appeared to be the one in the wrong when calling out Jimmy, but thankfully for viewers, she gave us more nuance to the story. It is clear that Jimmy’s friendships cross boundaries, as he is constantly FaceTiming the friend he slept with and messaging her while with his fiancé. During their meeting at the bar, Jimmy’s female friends also seemed to be alarmingly knowledgeable about his sex life and one of his friends even made the comment that he would “never turn sex down,” coyly – placing Chelsea in an even worse position when she found out the truth. Yet any conversations about this is shut down by Jimmy, and Chelsea expresses that she is afraid to express her feelings and feels as if she’s walking on eggshells. To act as if Chelsea is primarily to blame for the consequences of such a stunt reeks of blameshifting – and some viewers of the show who have been in toxic relationships have pointed out that it feels very much like gaslighting. For example, TikToker Cecilia Regina points out that Jimmy denies having said he didn’t want to have sex with Chelsea even though he clearly did, and rapidly changes his reasons for not wanting to go to the altar around “three times in under a minute” in this conversation. Such reasons range from the fact that Chelsea jokingly said Johnny and Amy are the best couple (to be fair, they are), to the fact that Chelsea and him had an argument about his female friend (and rightfully so).
Jessica Agrees with Chelsea On This One
Even Jessica (the other main woman in the pods Jimmy was interested in) expressed recently on the Nick Viall show that she agreed with Chelsea on her position on feeling uncomfortable with Jimmy having a female friend he had slept with and maintaining continued and persistent contact with her. As she says, “That would’ve been a dealbreaker – that is black and white for me…immediately no. I am not comfortable with that…especially when you’re talking about who’s going to be your wife. It’s not some casual relationship. I should be able to say I am not comfortable with that or there needs to be better lines and boundaries put in place, and him being like, easy, done.” She also notes that there was a lot going on behind the scenes that made her believe she and Jimmy were never going to work out, and generally is aligned with Chelsea’s perspective that he did present himself in a certain way in the pods (as a homebody) that didn’t accurately represent his real life behavior. Jessica also set strong boundaries with Jimmy in the pods about not wanting her future husband to have a wandering eye or follow shady accounts on Instagram – something Jimmy seemed to have a rather evasive response to. One has to wonder if this was one of the reasons Jimmy decided not to move forward with Jessica – because he knew he could not get away with the same antics as easily.
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“Listening to the commentary on Jimmy and Chelsea from Love is Blind, I can see why you all get played in relationships,” says Cecilia Regina in a viral TikTok as the new episodes aired. And indeed, she is right. Even Jessica, the woman Jimmy did not choose as his fiancé and who famously told Jimmy he was going to need his EpiPen when he realized what he missed out on, confirmed on the Nick Viall podcast that there was a lot going on behind the cameras regarding Jimmy that audiences never saw and false promises made to both of them she knew he would not carry out. If there’s one thing you can count on when it comes to the reality television show Love is Blind, it is that any woman who dares to express even an ounce of emotion to outrageous behavior will be labeled as “insecure and clingy.” – Love is Blind: If Jimmy Slept With His Female Best Friend, Why Are We Calling Chelsea Insecure?
Other viewers may fervently point out that Chelsea, too, is friends with her ex, but as Chelsea notes, she does not maintain daily communication with him like Jimmy does his with his friend. In addition, Chelsea’s behavior toward her other potential love interest, Trevor (who she was obviously very attracted to) outside of the pods was quite conservative and reserved. Chelsea is clearly not the type of person who flirts with or disrespects her significant other the way Jimmy did when he met with Jessica, with whom he expressed an obvious and rather inappropriate interest in, telling her she was still his number one choice. Chelsea may be emotional and expressive, and viewers have pointed out her anxious attachment style. Some viewers may find her responses to be overwhelming when clips are heavily edited without further context – but that doesn’t mean her boundaries or discomfort are any less valid in the context of the larger patterns of red flags we’ve seen on the show, or what is happening behind the scenes. This is yet another case where a female contestant has been mercilessly scrutinized throughout social media, with very little discussion on the behavior of the male contestant. Maybe love isn’t blind, but misogyny certainly is.
