Rania Naim

I’ll find your texts to read the emptiness in your words, to remember how unexcited you were about me and about us. I’ll find them so I can read the broken promises over and over again and remember how you never really followed through and how you probably never intended to.

“No effort. If there’s no effort, there’s no relationship. Trust me on this one, men make the effort when they want someone. They don’t get lazy.”

Maybe you scare them because you don’t know how to wait. You take yourself out of the equation when there is more than one. You don’t try to compete for someone’s attention if they’re not giving it to you freely and you don’t try to force someone to see who you are or who you could be.

We say goodbye shortly after we say hello. We say goodbye before we get to know them. We say goodbye before we understand them and we say goodbye without even hearing what they have to say or how they feel.

Asking them to be ‘chill’ or ‘cool’ is like asking a flower to bloom in the middle of winter.

I realized that people only like you when you’re happy and light not when you’re sad and heavy. I realized that people only want you when you’re fun and loud not when you’re down and quiet.

You remember that you were fine before they entered your life, you remember who you were before they approached you, you remember that you’ve moved on before and that you have a life waiting for you outside of them.

Maybe you need to take a few steps back instead of taking a huge leap of faith. Maybe you need to stop chasing people and let them chase you instead. Let them find you. Let them choose you. Let them get your attention first instead of giving them yours right away.