You stay attached to the wrong person when you wait for them to change. They won’t change for you, they can only change for themselves, but waiting for someone to change in order to become the person you think they are or the person you think they could be is only a waste of time.
You stay attached to the wrong person when you think there is no one out there better for you. When you don’t believe that you will be able to find someone you can love just as much who will be able to give you what you need without breaking your heart.
You stay attached to the wrong person when you limit yourself to one place. The world is huge, but often, we limit ourselves to the city we live in or our circle of friends and that’s how we end up exaggerating our feelings towards someone because they’re the best we could find in this city or this group, but there are a lot of people elsewhere who would be so much better for you. So don’t settle for someone because of their geographical proximity.
You stay attached to the wrong person when you try to convince yourself that they’re right for you. You hold on to threads of hope that you two belong together, that you both need each other, that you are the perfect match. These assumptions are not backed by actions or logical reasons. They’re all fantasies or maybe your heart tricking you into believing they’re the one because you desperately want to prove yourself right and prove that all this is not just a figment of your imagination.
You stay attached to the wrong person when you continue to stalk them on social media. When you keep following their updates and their news, when you keep looking at their pictures and seeing how much fun they’re having without you. Block them if you must, do anything that stops you from staying addicted to them when they’re no longer part of your life.
You stay attached to the wrong person when you lie to yourself about what you want. When you tell yourself that you don’t want more, that you’re okay with making all the moves, that you’re okay with minimal effort and shallow conversations. When you lie to yourself that you don’t want dates and butterflies and nights full of romance. When you settle for hours when you want forever.
You stay attached to the wrong person when they change everything you knew about love and you still accept it.