Does your love life suck? Do you keep attracting the wrong people? Have all your past relationships failed terribly?
If you answered yes to these questions, then you have a real issue here. I am not the type of person to sugarcoat anything, and maybe those people were not right for you, but if you keep falling in the same pattern of dating the same toxic people, then guess who the problem is? IT’S YOU! You ARE the problem!
It sounds harsh, but it’s true. If you keep attracting and dating the same kind of people it’s because, deep down inside, you have some serious issues you need to work on.
After living, learning, standing from afar and looking back, I began to realize what the real issue in my dating life was. Me. I was attracting the wrong people, because I was being the wrong person.
The law of attraction states that you attract what you are, not what you want.
I understand that no one deliberately seeks out someone who is toxic, closed off, negative and needy, but if this is you, this is what you will attract into your life.
Let’s go into the future and picture yourself 5 years from now. You are well established, you are at the top of your career and you have have worked very hard to get to a point in your life that you are at peace and happy. Now, imagine a negative Nancy that is always in a bad mood, always complaining and always unhappy trying to be with you. Would you allow this kind of person into your life?
Well, unless you are a masochist, I am sure that your answer was no. Now you see the big picture here. A well-established, happy and successful person will not even be attracted to someone like negative Nancy.
If you want to be successful in attracting the right person into your life, then you need to do the work of learning how to take emotional responsibility of your actions and make the changes needed so the right person can gravitate towards you.
Until you begin to think and act like the person who has the things you desire, you’ll never attract that person.
It all begins with you.
Work on yourself and be what you want to attract.
To attract great, then be great. To attract someone attractive, you must be attractive. To attract a powerful person, you must be powerful. To attract a committed person, you must be committed. To attract a loving person, you must be loving. To attract an emotionally stable person, you must be emotionally stable yourself.
If you want to attract the person of your dreams, then become the person of your dreams.
You need to make the changes in your own life that allow you to become the person your dream mate wants to date. The best thing you can do for yourself is to become the person YOU would want to date. You need to become the person of your dreams.
To attract the person of your dreams, you have to do some necessary inner work. You need to heal your feelings of insecurity. You need to heal whatever turmoil is inside you. You have to take responsibility for your feelings.
To attract someone with goals, ambitions, and consistency, you should be focusing on developing goals for yourself, following your own ambitions, and creating consistency in your own life.
To attract love, you have to learn how to fill yourself with love, so that you can in turn give that same love to someone else. If you want respect, remember to respect yourself so that they have a reason to respect you. If you want loyalty, be loyal to yourself. If you want happiness, find happiness within yourself first so you can share it with someone else. Whatever it is that you long for, make sure that you are those things.
Work on becoming the best version of yourself each and every day. Surround yourself with people who have what you want. Spend time around things you desire. Focus on becoming the person of your dreams in order to attract the person of your dreams. If you become, you can attract.
When you become the person of your dreams, you will see that you are no longer attracted to the type of people you dated in your past. Now you are drawn to people who also love themselves and want to share love rather than get love. You will see that you will attract the right people and things into your life. You will be drawn to those who also value themselves. You will no longer end up with people who are no good for you. You will find yourself walking away from anything and anyone that does not share the same qualities and values.
When you become the person of your dreams, you will not settle for anyone. Because you know that you deserve the best and have no obligation to settle for less than just that.
Build up your worth and attract the person of your dreams.