What Everyone Does When They’re Unhappy In A Relationship Based On Their Chinese Zodiac

God & Man

Rat

2008, 1996, 1984, 1972, 1960

They cheat.

Rats find it easy to start new relationships but find it very difficult to maintain them. They get very bored, very easily. And rather than just end relationships sometimes they like seeing how much they can get away with and for how long. When this pattern continues what they are failing to realize is it’s not the person who they are dating who is the issue, it’s them.

Ox

2009, 1997, 1985, 1973, 1961

They fake what’s really going on because they don’t want to believe it.

The ox is loyal and good at relationships. They gravitate towards relationships that last long and are healthy until the end. But sometimes people change and the relationship doesn’t evolve also. Instead of stating that an Ox will live in denial of what’s going on and continue to pretend the relationship was as good as it was when it began. It’s hard to let go but it hurts more holding onto something that’s not there anymore.

Tiger

2010, 1998, 1986, 1974, 1962

They overcompensate.

The tiger isn’t one who is too emotional or show affection well. But when their relationship suddenly isn’t what it used be they think they have to try too hard. Suddenly something is off in this relationship and they don’t know how to fix it.

Rabbit

2011, 1999, 1987, 1975, 1963

They stay busy.

Probably the most likable of all signs, when their relationship begins to fall apart instead of ending it, they try not to think about it. They get themselves consumed in work or projects, charity groups or sports. They think out of sight out of mind but whenever they come home they are met with an awkward small talk where no one is actually saying anything or saying what they need to.

Dragon

2012, 2000, 1988, 1976, 1964

They turn to everyone else but their partner to talk about it.

A dragon tends to gossip and cause problems simply because they air their dirty laundry. Soon they find themselves in a relationship triangle because the person they turn to suddenly catches feels, their current partner gets jealous, they say it’s nothing and suddenly there is just so much going on the relationship ends. The problem whatever it might have been initially morphed into something else and that’s the recurring theme dragons have in relationship is not being able to address the problem with the right person.

Snake

2013, 2001, 1989, 1977, 1965

They become workaholics.

When there are problems at home suddenly they spend more time in the office. They leave longer for trips. While they work hard and love what they do they don’t like coming to terms with the relationship probably failing because of them.

Horse


2014, 2002, 1990, 1978, 1966

They shut down.

The horse is used to being liked, thriving as they are the center of attention. Always the more dominant one in a relationship. So when their partner loses interest they don’t know how to really respond to someone not adoring them anymore. Their confidence comes from others. So when a relationship fails they lose a bit of confidence in themselves thinking they are to blame.

Goat

2015, 2003, 1991, 1979, 1967

They try to fix it.

The goat has a very good sense of being able to tell when something is even slightly off. They have calm and reserved personalities. They will never take out intense emotions on you or channel negativity in your direction. Instead they just want to fix the problem. Sometimes the problem though isn’t something you can fix. It’s something you have to walk away from and that’s tough.

Monkey

2016, 2004, 1992, 1980, 1968

They take everything out on their partner.

As they fail to understand why the relationship is ending instead of realizing they are part of the problem, they project all of the blame onto their partner. They find themselves losing it for reasons that aren’t even related to the relationship. Pointing at someone else takes attention away from the fact they might be the problem.

Rooster

2005, 1993, 1981, 1969

They try and take control of the situation at hand.

When their relationship is out of control and they don’t know how to fix it they latch onto controlling what they can.

Dog

2006, 1994, 1982, 1970

They keep you in the dark.

The dog is usually the most honest and loyal but when their relationship is failing and being the person they are isn’t working, they suddenly begin to shift into a version of themselves they or their partner don’t recognize and it only makes things worse.

Pig

2007, 1995, 1983, 1971

They don’t communicate well.

When relationships come to an end the partner doesn’t see it coming. The pig knows it but won’t admit it as they see things very logically. But they struggle in articulating it. So when they can’t identify the problem they create more. Their partner asks what’s on their mind and the pig is afraid to admit it’s over. TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

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