You Broke Her Heart You Don’t Get To Be Friends With Her After That

God & Man

I know she’s a good friend. But you want to know what? Should have been an even better girlfriend had you given her the chance.

Instead of giving her a chance you led her on.

Instead of giving her a chance you played games.

Instead of giving her a chance messed with her head and sent a million mixed signals.

Instead of giving her a chance you made her think she had to work for your time and attention.

And she tried.

The truth is, she thought the world of you. She loved you. She would have done anything for you. And continues to prove that by trying to be your friend.

But it’s honestly killing her.

She’s trying to be strong putting on a brave face and smiling but you don’t see her run to the bathroom and fix her makeup as she holds back tears.

She’s trying to be strong so she keeps answering you. She keeps giving her best. But the truth is she’s so hurt.

She stays up at night tossing and turning replaying things in her mind wondering which singles she read wrong.

She overthinks everything blaming herself when in reality you didn’t have the decency to tell her you weren’t interested.

Instead of telling her you weren’t interested, you reaped the benefits of her attention.

Instead of telling her you weren’t interested, you took everything she had to give without reciprocating it.

Instead of telling her you weren’t interested, you spent time with her, you listened to her, you broke down her walls until she trusted you at her most vulnerable state.

Instead of telling her you weren’t interested, you did everything to make her believe you were.

So don’t blame her for pulling away. She needs to. Don’t question her when she doesn’t answer. Because it’s killing her not to. Don’t pick a fight because you don’t understand why she’s hurt and upset. It’s only making it worse.

You weren’t honest with her.

You didn’t tell her there was someone else.

That’s all you had to say. But for some reason, you kept those details under lock and key.

So don’t blame her for reacting the way she did. Because as surprised as you might be at her reaction imagine how blindsided she felt.

You made her feel like a fool for not knowing something you didn’t tell her.

Put yourself in your shoes.

You never told her to stop trying so she didn’t.

You never told her to back off so she didn’t.

You want to be her friend but you don’t even know the meaning of friendship.

Personally, when I choose friends I don’t pick the ones that make me cry myself to sleep at night.

And she’s pretending like this is okay. She’s pretending things are fine.

Because it’s easier to pretend then call you out on your bullshit and tell you you’ve been a dick.

I’m sorry but you don’t get to be her friend after you broke her heart.

Because with friends like that who needs enemies. TC mark

Kirsten Corley

Kirsten is the author of But Before You Leave, a book of poetry about the experiences we struggle to put into words.

Trace the scars life has left you. It will remind you that at one point, you fought for something. You believed.

“You are the only person who gets to decide if you are happy or not—do not put your happiness into the hands of other people. Do not make it contingent on their acceptance of you or their feelings for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if someone dislikes you or if someone doesn’t want to be with you. All that matters is that you are happy with the person you are becoming. All that matters is that you like yourself, that you are proud of what you are putting out into the world. You are in charge of your joy, of your worth. You get to be your own validation. Please don’t ever forget that.” — Bianca Sparacino

Excerpted from The Strength In Our Scars by Bianca Sparacino.

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