Kim Quindlen

Search for someone who challenges you to be better every day, while still loving you right now, unconditionally, for the mess that you are.

Scorpio: You never stopped being fascinating. Every day that the two of you were together, they felt like they were always discovering something new and interesting about you.

Aries-Taurus (4/16-4/22): You’re bold, you go after what you want, you don’t get discouraged easily, and you never let anyone else tell you who you are.

Never stop wanting to know more about them, because they’ll never stop wanting to know about you.

Pay attention to the everyday “disposable” items that you usually throw out, and figure out if there’s a way to find a reusable option instead.

Gemini: Stop trying to please everybody.

Libra: You can’t make up your mind about anything. Every time you make any plans, even just walking down the street for a drink, it becomes a 26-step process. Should we invite anyone else? Well won’t Marc get mad if we invite Julia and Karl but not him? This Yelp review says the cocktails are delicious but only gave it 3.5 stars – how can we trust them?

Settle for the fact that sometimes you’re just going to feel weird around people, even people you really like. Because socializing can be really hard.

“The way he talked about his family. It was sweet and heartfelt and genuine and I was instantly into him after that.”

“Every time she told a story, she ended up with the attention of the whole room without even trying. It was never show-boaty, she was just so funny and articulate.”

Virgo: You’ve convinced yourself that you need to be a rock for others but that others cannot be a rock for you.

Tell them that anxiety is so complex, so powerful, so all-consuming, and so varied that it looks different and feels different in every single brain and body where it sets up camp.

Aquarius: That things don’t emotionally affect you as much (because your exterior is always calm), or that you don’t easily understand others since you’re not outwardly emotional.

Aquarius-Pisces (2/15-2/21): Compliance.

People experiencing challenges are experiencing those challenges because they’re out in the world living and trying and doing things; the only way you’d be free from challenges is if you were sitting on your couch and letting life pass you by.

“I stopped actually trying to get the upper hand. I’m not sure if objectively that means I got the upper hand, but subjectively it does. I stopped obsessing over him and what he was doing compared to me. And instead focused on my own life without him in it. To me, that’s getting the upper hand, even if it’s totally subjective and unrelated to him.”

Sagittarius: You rise from failure by looking on the bright side of this experience (you learned something, you discovered a better path, you met someone important to you, etc) and by ruminating on how different of a person you would be if you hadn’t gone through this difficult challenge.

Scorpio: You’re not afraid to go after what you want, your passion is always contagious, and you don’t rely on other people’s approval to do whatever it is that you want to do.