How To Get Over Someone Fast By Dismantling Your False Beliefs About Love


If you want to know how to get over someone fast, you need to understand the psychology behind false beliefs. Most people aren’t aware of the reality that they have been programmed with false beliefs ever since they were a child. They are in effect brainwashed. Yes even YOU.

You’ll probably disagree with me …right?

I expected so. You see, the problem with being brainwashed is that when someone in this state – they don’t realize they have been brainwashed. They just assume they are normal and that their beliefs are normal.

This is why it can be hard to un-brainwash a person. They are convinced that what they have been programmed with must be true.

One of the key ways we have been brainwashed ever since we were a child is how we view love. And the manner in which you have been brainwashed (with regard to love) can make getting over someone you think you love unnecessarily difficult. This is what I want to undo in this article.

Let’s Take An Example Of A Common False Belief…

Imagine a guy is in love with a girl, he gets down on one knee before her and goes to put something on her finger. Now, let me ask you a question – What is he going to put on her finger?

A diamond ring of course! …you’ll probably say.

But did you ever ask yourself why he does this? Is this something men have always done? It might surprise you to learn that giving a woman a diamond engagement ring is a modern invention …an invention created solely by a business man (Harry Oppenheimer) back in the 1930’s for the purpose of making more money for his company!

Here’s how it happened…

In the late 19th century a massive diamond mine was discovered in South Africa which resulted in the world market being flooded with diamonds. This created a problem – the price of diamonds went down.

Harry Oppenheimer of De Beers Consolidated Mines, Ltd. was worried about his companys future and so he thought of an idea. He placed ads in newspapers all around the country promoting the idea that the only type of engagement ring worthy of true love – was a diamond engagement ring. Anything else was only second class.

Back then in was extremely unusual for a man to give a woman a diamond engagement ring. If your great-grandparents are still alive – ask them! However, because of Harry Oppenheimers marketing campaign, the idea of a diamond ring took off. It soon became widespread. Every guy wanted to be able to say that he gave his future bride a diamond ring …and every woman wanted to say she had been given one!

Most people now today have completely forgotton how this myth (ie that you must give your future bride a diamond engagement ring) came into being and became one of our common beliefs. It all started from a simple ad campaign …and turned into something we now think was always there.

How We Have Been Programmed

As you can see, people can become programmed with a belief that is completely manufactured. One of the leading ways manufactured myths like this come into being is for financial reasons. The myth of the diamond engagement ring came into being because some guy wanted his company to make more money.

The same has happened with the concept of love we see around us today. We have been programmed with concepts like:

  • “The One”
  • Love can’t be controlled because it is based on “fate” or “destiny”.
  • We must be broken hearted if we lose “The One” …making us think thoughts like “You can never be happy without The One”.

Where did these come from? The answer is mainly from Hollywood rom coms and the music we listen to everyday. Concepts like “The One” are what sell Hollywood rom-coms. They make us feel all warm and fussy inside thinking that there is one special person on this whole planet that we are “destined” to be with. Because we like believing in this idea, we keep going to see rom-coms that portray this idea …and so Hollywood keeps making them!

It becomes an endless cycle.

But the problem is this – Not only are these beliefs FALSE, but they are very damaging when someone breaks up with us or when we can’t be with someone we feel we really love. They are damaging because these myths in essence make us feel helpless.

What You Need To Do To Get Over Someone Fast…

What you need to do is dismantle false myths about love that you currently hold. Part of my book “THE ERASE CODE: How To Get Over Anyone In Less Than A Week Using Psychology” involves going through the full set of false beliefs that makes it difficult to get over someone you love. It then reveals how to destroy each myth, one by one.

Let’s take the myth of “The One” for example. In my book I reveal how this is just a myth by showing you exactly where in human history the myth of “The One” originated. I also show how it is artificially propagated today by the society we live in. If you think the person is “The One”, you will no longer think so after reading this book.

When you can come to see just how manufactured myths about love really are, it will help you in getting over someone you love fast. It will release you from the mindset that this person you love is the only “One” you can have in your life …but that there are multiple “Ones” you are capable of having. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

John Alex Clark is a Relationship & Life Coach. He is the founder of the website Relationship Psychology.

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