Holly Riordan

Don’t settle for someone who gives you ultimatums. Don’t settle for someone who forces you to pick between him and friends you’ve known your entire life. Don’t settle for someone who questions your loyalty when you haven’t done a single thing wrong.

You shouldn’t stay together because you would rather stick it out with him than start all over again with a new relationship.

If you love me the right way, I won’t make you fight for my attention. I won’t make you compete for my love. I won’t make you guess what’s on my mind.

You should hold out for a guy who treats you right, not a guy who treats you slightly better than the last guy.

Having anxiety doesn’t mean it’s impossible for me to have fun, to let loose, to be a good friend.

I care too much about myself to start caring about you again. 

I don’t need anyone else to like me. I don’t need anyone else to give me validation because I already know my own value.

The longer you spend in a bad situation, the more normal it feels. You get used to the arguments and the tension and the tiptoeing around.

He’s confident you aren’t going anywhere — while you’re nervous he’s going to leave at any second.

It’s hard to forgive someone who doesn’t even seem like they’re sorry.

It’s easy for me to tell other people everything is going to be okay and to keep thinking positive, but it’s hard for me to convince myself sometimes.

I should have realized I was asking the absolute minimum from you — and you couldn’t even give me that.

In some ways, committing is scarier than ever when you find the right person because you really want the relationship to work out. You really don’t want to lose them.

You have to remember they’re allowed to complain about having a bad time even if you’ve been having a worse time.

You might think being a pessimist is preparing you for the worst and protecting you from having your heart broken by failure, but in reality, it’s hurting you more than it’s helping you. It’s convincing you to stop trying. It’s convincing you to give up too early. It’s convincing you not to care.

You don’t want to commit to someone who sets off your paranoia. You don’t want to commit to someone who makes you feel like they might leave at any second. 

Even though I understand why you wouldn’t want me around now that you’re in a serious relationship with someone else, I’m still frustrated with you.

It’s good to be selective. It’s good to be careful about who you trust with your thoughts, your secrets, your soul.