Don't Date Immature Men

Don’t Date Immature Men

I’m a kid at heart. I never take myself too seriously. I want to date someone who is able to let loose and act silly when the moment is right — but I don’t want to date someone who acts immature and irresponsible.

I’m supposed to be your girlfriend, not your babysitter, not your mother, not your keeper. I don’t want to nag you about helping me with chores. I don’t want to remind you to complete basic tasks hours after they should have already been completed.

You should be reliable enough, and self-aware enough, to handle your responsibilities on your own. It’s not my job to keep you focused. I might be your partner, your teammate, your soulmate — but we’re two separate people. I’m not in charge of you. You have your own brain. You can make your own choices.

I understand people make mistakes, so it’s completely fine if you cancel plans on me once or twice when events accidentally overlap, but it shouldn’t be an everyday occurrence. I’m not a spontaneous, go-with-the-flow person, so I can’t date someone who manages their time poorly. I don’t want our weekend plans to be canceled at the last second when you realize you were supposed to meet your parents for dinner. And I don’t want to be invited to dinner with you at the last second when the plans were set months ago and you could have filled me in months ago.

You’re a grown adult. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect you to act like one.

One of the biggest parts of being responsible is learning how to communicate with your significant other. I hate being left out of the loop. I hate finding out things at the last second. When you have something to tell me, it’s not that difficult to send a short text to keep me updated. Let me know if you’re going to be late for our date. Let me know if you aren’t feeling one-hundred percent. Let me know what’s going on so I don’t end up sitting around, wondering.

If you feel like you’re too young to act like a proper adult, that’s completely fine. Have fun. Enjoy your youth. You can choose whatever path you like — but if you choose me, then you’re going to have to act respectful, act reliable, and take responsibility for your actions.

I don’t want to date someone who doesn’t know how to keep track of time, someone who doesn’t know how to communicate with me properly, someone who doesn’t know how to treat me right.

If you’re planning on dating me, then you need to act like a responsible, mature adult. Otherwise, a relationship is’t going to work out between the two of us. I’m not interested in taking care of you when we’re both supposed to be taking care of each other. I’m not interested in playing the role of the stern, nagging girlfriend. I’m not interested in being the only adult in the room. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Holly is the author of Severe(d): A Creepy Poetry Collection.

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