Holly Riordan

Apologizing isn’t going to change what happened between us. It isn’t going to erase the past. It isn’t going to heal my heartbreak. It isn’t going to magically make everything okay again.

How much you accomplish each day doesn’t correlate to your value.

There’s multiple versions of the person you love. There’s the person who makes you laugh, who comforts you, who respects you, who makes you feel beautiful inside and out. And then there’s another person who hurts you, who criticizes you, you shames you, who makes you feel small and insecure. 

You’re strong because you have been through a lot but you’re still standing, still breathing, still fighting, still here. 

You’re ready for a commitment to come your way — but you’re not going to force yourself to stay with someone who doesn’t suit you perfectly.

Your fear isn’t a sign you’re about to make the wrong move.

When you fall in love with someone you never dated, you feel like you aren’t allowed to mourn as long or as loudly as you would’ve mourned an official relationship.

You’re not the only one who has had their heart broken, who has felt broken beyond repair, who has questioned whether they’re ever going to settle down with someone they love.

Stop acting like she’s suffocating you when all she’s done is try to be there for you, to support you, to be a good friend.

It’s time to start taking the energy you usually pour into other people and directing it inwards. It’s time to stop placing your own name so low on your list of priorities.

It’s normal for you to be confused, to have a million questions, to wonder what the hell happened.

An apology makes less and less sense the more times you have to make it.

It doesn’t matter who you are or how long we’ve known each other. If you get a text from me, you probably aren’t getting the first version.

I wanted you to kiss me whenever we were bantering back and forth, whenever we were flirting behind the veil of sarcastic comments, whenever we were commenting on how much we liked each other without actually saying the words.

Stop acting like your heart is made of ice. Stop acting like you don’t care about anyone other than yourself. Stop acting like you’re happier on your own because you hate dealing with people.

Stop feeling pressured to move on so quickly.

I think too much. And I feel too much. It’s the absolute worst combination in the world of modern dating. 

Convince your person to dress up with you and then share a spooky evening together watching horror movies on your couch.