When You Love Someone, You’ll Stop Being Stubborn

When you love someone, you won’t let your stubbornness get in the way. You won’t walk away at the first sign of confrontation. You won’t break up with your partner, simply because you’re having trouble seeing eye-to-eye on something small.

When you love someone, you’ll compromise during disagreements. You won’t insist you’re right. You won’t stubbornly cling to your argument. You won’t drown out what your partner is saying because you’re so sure that they’re wrong. You’ll try to see your partner’s point of view. You’ll respect them enough to listen to what they have to say. You’ll understand that, even if you don’t feel the same way as they do, their feelings are valid. Their voice deserves to be heard.

When you love someone, you won’t turn down their date ideas. You won’t roll your eyes when they ask when you’ll come along on an adventure. If they’re excited about seeing a certain movie or concert or play, you’ll agree to go with them. You’ll be their plus-one for life. And you’ll at least try to have a good time so you don’t ruin theirs. You won’t spend the entire night complaining, or reminding them that they owe you because you were nice enough to tag along. You’ll enjoy the quality time spent with them because you would rather be with them than anybody else.

When you love someone, you’ll do things you never thought you would. You’ll agree to visit new places, try new cuisines, meet new people. You’ll do whatever it takes to make your partner happy — and they’ll do the same. Your relationship is supposed to be reciprocal. You’re supposed to learn new things from each other and teach new things to each other. This is one of the most beautiful parts of dating. The fact that you get to experience a fresh perspective.

When you love someone, you can’t expect them to do everything you say. You aren’t their boss and you aren’t their caretaker. You’re their partner. Their teammate. You should be making decisions together.

You can still maintain your independence in a relationship without stubbornly refusing to compromise. Refusing to see their point of view. Refusing to give them the respect they deserve.

When you love someone, you need to act as equals. You need to give as much as you receive. You won’t always get your way — and that’s okay. Sometimes, seeing your partner smile is more important than your ego. Sometimes, making a compromise is more important than winning an argument. Sometimes, relationships require you to bend. You need to stay flexible. You need to be willing to meet your partner halfway.

When you love someone, you can’t be too stubborn. You’re allowed to stick up for yourself. You’re allowed to have an opinion that differs from your partner’s. You’re allowed to speak your mind. However, you need to give your partner a chance to speak their mind as well. You need to listen to their opinion. You need to give and take. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Holly Riordan

Holly is the author of Severe(d): A Creepy Poetry Collection.

More From Thought Catalog