1. Refuse to accept responsibility for the mistakes they’ve made. If they keep trying to turn the situation around and blame other people or the circumstances they were under for what they’ve done, it means they aren’t mature enough to take responsibility for their own actions. They aren’t self-aware enough to realize they aren’t perfect and they aren’t always going to make the right decisions.
2. Refuse to apologize for the mistakes they’ve made. If they feel like they haven’t really done anything wrong, then what’s stopping them from repeating the bad behavior in the future? If they think they’re living a perfectly fine, moral life, then they’re going to continue acting the way they’ve been acting. They won’t see a reason to change.
3. Point out all of the mistakes you’ve made to draw the attention away from them. When you’re upset by something they’ve done, they shouldn’t fire back with all of the things that you’ve done wrong in the past. If they’re deflecting because they want to blame you for the bad things they’ve done, you might not want to give them a second chance. You might want to part ways.
4. Try to guilt trip you into keeping them in your world. You aren’t under any obligation to keep them in your life. You shouldn’t feel like you’re required to give them a second chance, simply because you have a long history together or because you’ve made promises to each other in the past. You’re allowed to move on at any time. If they’ve broken your trust and broken your faith in them, then you’re allowed to say goodbye.
5. Act like you’re overreacting to whatever they’ve done. You’re entitled to your opinions and your emotions. The way you’re feeling right now is valid. If this other person doesn’t take your emotions seriously and accuses you of being dramatic over something that is not that big of a deal, then they aren’t meant to be in your world. You don’t want someone around who disrespects your feelings, who tries to dictate whether or not you have a right to be upset over things they’ve done.
6. Make you feel horrible about yourself. Before you give this person a second chance, take a second to really think about whether you want them around for any longer. If they make you stressed out, self-conscious, and overall miserable then you might benefit by ending your relationship. Remember, you have a choice. You can choose to walk away from this person. It’s not going to be easy, but it’s going to be worth it.
7. Repeat their bad behaviors. If this isn’t the first time you’ve gotten into an argument with them over the same issue, then you might want to call it quits. They obviously haven’t learned their lesson since the last time they hurt you, so what makes you think they would learn their lesson this time around? If they make a habit out of something you hate, you probably shouldn’t give them another chance. Otherwise, history is only going to repeat itself.