It’s hard to get over exes and almosts when you’re friends with them on social media.
Whenever you feel like you are taking a step closer toward healing from your heartache, you will stumble across a photograph that breaks your heart all over again.
Being friends with an ex on social media can ruin your good mood. It can ruin your progress. It can ruin your self-esteem.
When you see him post a picture with another girl, you might compare yourself to her. You might wonder why he would choose her over you. When you see him post on Valentine’s Day and anniversaries, you might wonder why he never treated you as nicely as he treats his new girlfriend. You might wonder why he changed for her.
Without social media, you would have no idea what your ex was doing. You would have no idea what his newest girlfriend looks like. You would have no idea how quickly he moved on from you. You wouldn’t be calling each other up out of the blue and giving updates about your love lives — so why should you follow his love life on social media? Why should you put yourself through that kind of pain?
Sometimes, ignorance is bliss. Sometimes, it’s better not to know.
Deleting someone who broke your heart, someone who is out of your ‘real life’ for good, is not immature. It makes sense. You might as well erase him from your accounts if you have no plans to speak to him again, if you are better off away from him, if it hurts to look at him.
There is no reason to subject yourself to his photos and updates when you are trying to forget about him. Out of sight, out of mind is a cliche for a reason. You’ll have a much easier time moving on from your relationship if you aren’t seeing reminders of him every time you open Facebook and Instagram.
Yes, your ex might notice if you delete him. He might be offended. Or he might feel like he ‘won’ the breakup. Either way, you’re never going to see him again, so it doesn’t matter what he thinks. He is out of your world.
You shouldn’t feel bad about severing your final ties to him. Some people can hang out one-on-one with their exes without a problem. Other people cannot hear an ex’s name without getting upset. It depends on the person. It depends on the situation. It depends on the ex.
You know what you can and cannot handle. If you swoon (or sob) every time you see a picture of him, delete him from social media. Then delete him from your phone. You don’t need to be tempted to text him. You don’t need him in your life in any capacity.
Even though you might miss him, it doesn’t mean you should stay in contact with him. Even though you might be curious about how he’s been, it doesn’t mean you should keep him as a friend on social media.