Being Vague About Your Feelings Will Make You Lose Her 

Being Vague About Your Feelings Will Make You Lose Her 

You are going to lose her if she has no idea where she stands with you.

You cannot drop breadcrumbs, hinting at how much you like her. She is expecting a date. She is expecting a kiss. If you wait too long to make a move, then she is going to assume you are not interested. She is going to jump to conclusions, thinking the worst, thinking you only view her as a friend.

You are going to lose her if you send mixed signals instead of looking her in the eyes and admitting how you feel. If you only text her late at night, if you only invite her over at the last second, if you only flirt with her when no one else is around, then she is going to wonder how serious you are about her. She is going to wonder whether you are interested in a relationship or are only interested in playing around with her heart. She has been led on a million times before, so she is going to be skeptical of how you feel until you tell her yourself. 

Even though you think she is the most beautiful woman you have ever seen, chances are she does not view herself the same way. She has insecurities. She has doubts. She is not cocky enough to assume you have strong feelings for her. She is not going to assume you want to date her unless you give her good enough reasons to feel that way.

You are going to lose her if you talk yourself out of making a move. You might think your feelings are obvious — just like she might think her feelings are obvious — but that does not mean it is the truth. You can continue hinting at liking each other by hearting selfies and sending semi-flirtatious texts, but if you want to make sure you don’t lose your chance with each other, someone should speak up.

Instead of sending the first text and hoping it speaks for itself, ask her on an official date. Don’t use the word hang out. Don’t be vague. Be as blunt as possible. Make sure she understands you have feelings for her. Make sure there is no confusing your intentions.

You are going to lose her if you keep your heart locked away in your chest. You have to be brave enough to wear it on your sleeve, at least for a little while. At least until she realizes how you feel about her.

It’s scary to put your heart on the line, but remaining inside of your comfort zone is not going to get you anywhere. You have to take risks for love. You have to allow yourself to be vulnerable. Maybe you will end up having your heart torn. Or maybe you will end up having it cherished.

Speak to her from the heart because you are going to lose her unless you are upfront about your feelings. Unless you let her know exactly how you feel. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

Holly is the author of Severe(d): A Creepy Poetry Collection.

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