You can blame the weather, the timing, the distance, whatever. The Former Nice Girl knows that really what you’re saying is “it’s not me, it’s not my fault.” They also know that people always make time for what’s important to them. Excuses are rooted in dishonesty and blame-placing. Former Nice Girl doesn’t have time for dishonesty and blame-placing.
2. Lack of Appreciation
Nice girls always get roped into doing favor after favor for friends, family, acquaintances, etc. While any relationship is a give and take, if it’s all give and no take, you can expect to see her heading towards the exit. Also, you’ll notice, the ones that she keeps around these days are the ones who not only appreciate her but those who go the extra mile to show it.
If the Former Nice Girl starts to feel like your relationship resembles the lyrics to a certain Katy Perry song, she’ll be out the door faster than you can say ghosted. This goes for interactions beyond romantic encounters. No one needs any more inconsistency in their life that is a natural given. She understands that life can get in the way and people get busy, but there’s a difference between that and someone who is all in and then all out. Big difference.
4. Jokes that aren’t funny
You know the ones I’m talking about. The “jokes” where the punchline feels more like a punch than a line. She’ll let you know it’s not funny in a very unfunny way. The only thing she’ll be laughing at is watching you squirm in place of her feeling down on herself for no reason. And that is pretty funny, isn’t it?
5. Unsolicited advice
This does not refer to well-meaning suggestions. This is about the not so friendly suggestions about what one “should” be doing. It is generally rooted in insecurity and the advice-giver will search for an area to pick at since they can’t compete overall. The Former Nice Girl used to take this bullshit seriously, but now she takes herself seriously instead.
Anything luke-warm, half-assed, or even nice but not amazing. With one life to live, these things can be thrown away to make room for something better.
7. People who can’t apologize
“I’m sorry I’ve been kind of an ass lately” = hella respect
Some type of calculated justification for crappy behavior with no apology in sight = no respect
The Former Nice Girl knows that anyone who values their own pride over a relationship or her feelings does not deserve a place in her life.
You see, the Former Nice Girl doesn’t have much time to be nice anymore. These days, she’s too busy kicking ass instead of kissing it.