(March 21st to April 19th)
Aries are not people who naturally love commitment. They value novelty and independence, they want every day to be a fun adventure and can view relationships as a hindrance to that. If you want a life with them, you have to show them how exciting that life can be. Plan exciting outings for you two to try new things together, introduce them to a sport they’ve never heard of, bring them to exotic restaurants — whatever you need to do to prove that you’re not going to suddenly morph into a homebody just because you’re official.
(April 20th to May 21st)
More than any other sign Taureans value independence and are skeptical of the motivations of others. They need you to show them that you are trustworthy, and never, ever break their confidence (you won’t be forgiven). This is a time investment because words aren’t enough, you have to be in it for the long haul and demonstrate that you’ll always be on their side.
(May 22nd to June 21st)
Geminis can be tricky because they usually have no problem committing to you, when they’re passionate about something they jump in with both feet. The problem is getting them to stay committed to you. In order to compete with all the other shiny objects vying for their attention, you’ve got to change. Show them new sides of you, take up new hobbies together, be excited about something new. They need to be stimulated by you in new ways.
(June 22nd to July 22nd)
Cancers love to commit, but they’re very picky about who they’ll commit with. If you’re the wrong person, nothing can help you. Show them that you’re a good person, make them feel safe enough to step outside of their shell and bond with you. Give them security — don’t change what you say you want week to week, they have to know that if they’re going to take a leap you’ll be there to catch them.
(July 23rd to August 22nd)
A Leo needs to know that you’ll forever fill their need to be loved, respected, and admired. When you fight, make sure not to throw in ego-blowing insults just because you’re mad. Compliment your Leo often and allow them to be the star of the show when the situation calls for it. They just want to know they’re with someone who will always be cheering them on.
(August 23rd to September 22nd)
In order for a Virgo to bet on you, you’re going to have to show them that you have your shit together. They don’t want to have to be the provider of all the money and stability and planning ability in the relationship. Virgos thing paying your bills ahead of the due date is sexy. Be a grown-ass adult and show them that a relationship with you would be a partnership between two equals.
(September 23rd to October 22nd)
Libras have two primary concerns when deciding whether to settle down with someone: whether you can fit in with their friends and family, and whether you are someone who can treat them fairly. You need to demonstrate to them that you’re reasonable and that you fight fair — and then you need to win over their loved ones. Be generous, be forthcoming, and embrace your inner social butterfly.
(October 23rd to November 22nd)
Even though they aren’t lovey dovey, Scorpios LOVE having a partner to come home to. They’re passionate and love the intensity of physical and emotional love. Before they commit, however, they need to know you’re going to be the yin to their yang. As fiery and quick to fight as they are, they need someone who will balance them out, not egg them on. Don’t make them jealous, make them secure in your love, and be a calming force of good in their life.
(November 23rd to December 21st)
Sagittarians like to keep it light, so confronting serious issues like “what are we?” isn’t one of their strengths. They’ll want the transition from casual to serious to be conflict-free and as easy as possible. (And please never describe it to them as serious). Bring up the commitment you seek in the most casual way possible, as if the idea just occurred to you in the moment — and wouldn’t it create less stress and be more fun if you guys took the next step?
(December 22nd to January 20th)
Capricorns are very shrewd decisions makers. They’ll think about committing to you long before you think about committing to them because they are constantly weighing the pros and cons of every opportunity in their life, trying to find the best deals. To capture a Capricorn, you’re going to need to prove yourself as one-half of the power couple of their dreams. Unfortunately, there’s no way to fake this, you’re going to need to get all your ducks in a row.
(January 21st to February 18th)
You’re going to need to show them that you’re no bimbo. Aquarians are intelligent and value deep thought. They want to end up with someone who will continue to be interesting, long after you’ve become overly comfortable with each other. Keep their interest sparked and they won’t have any fear about making a commitment.
(February 19th to March 20th)
Pisces are great partners and like being in a relationship, but they need to be coaxed into it. They value their individuality and fear anyone who wants to dominate or change them. You’re going to need to be patient and not smother them. Be smart and interesting and a good partner, and they’ll commit to you.