1. Let him know you are of value.
Honey, he isn’t ever going to meet a girl like you again. Let him know that in a confident way! For example, when the 23 year old asked me to hang out and go out to beer pong with him and then still didn’t know what was going on at 10PM I changed the plans. I kindly said, “Since everything is still up in the air, why don’t we plan to do something tomorrow together instead.” What this said to him was, you know what buddy, I’m not going to sit here and wait for you all night. Additionally, when he texts you, don’t text him back right away even though I know you are checking your phone every 30 seconds to see if he called or texted- act like you are a busy woman and aren’t drooling over him like a sad puppy dog who sees a bag of Beggin’ Strips ®.
2. The power of the word want.
Know what you want in a guy or a relationship and stick to it. Don’t settle for less than you deserve, there are too many men out there just to settle for one who doesn’t compare. Two guy friends of mine once told me that the word ‘want’ is one of the sexiest thing to a man can hear. Once I found out about this, I used this technique on the frat boy. After we were talking for a while, I brought it up. I asked what he was looking for and then I added about what I want, “Let me tell you what I want in my next relationship, I want someone who can be my best friend, who can make me laugh, who I can travel with, create great drunken memories with, and have crazy wild sex with.” Later after he asked me to be his girlfriend he told me this is one of the best things I said because it let him know I knew what I wanted from him and that they were things he thought he could provide for me.