The Brutally Honest Reason You Can’t Hold Onto Love, Based On Your Zodiac Sign

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March 21st – April 19th

As an Aries, you are an extremist by nature. You are super passionate and intense, and you sure aren’t afraid to show it. When dating someone new, it’s easy for you to come across as being “too much” at times. The person you are dating is likely unaware of your passionate nature, so they misinterpret this intensity as being a bit neurotic, which could likely turn them off completely. You’re an “all or nothing” type of person in all aspects of life, and that certainly includes romance.


April 20th – May 20th

You can’t seem to communicate your thoughts properly. You have so much to say, but no idea how to actually go about saying it. And more often than not, to you, communication translates to yelling and screaming or not speaking a single word. It’s one or the other for you. You deeply struggle with finding a healthy means of communication with your significant other and it often will put a major strain on your relationship.


May 21st – June 20th

As a Gemini, you are constantly second guessing everything in your life. And that even includes yourself. In a relationship, you tend to go into a bit of an identity crisis. You lose yourself in the midst of holding a relationship together, and you start to resent yourself for it. You often project those deep insecurities onto your partner, making them feel uneasy about who you really are.


June 21st – July 22nd

Your warm, inviting heart is your best and worst asset, Cancer. It’s so easy for you to overreact to even the littlest, unimportant things. This usually is what turns your partner off from you. You’re highly emotional and tend to feel things very deeply, there’s no denying that. You are a passionate lover by nature, which is a beautiful thing, but too much passion right away can be overwhelming to others who don’t understand that passion. It drives them away.


July 23rd – August 22nd

As a Leo, your ego is getting in your way, once again. You have a difficult time letting go of things or moving on from certain situations that have occurred. If someone does something to turn you off from them, it is nearly impossible for you to recover from those feelings. You are quick to immediately write them off and then you’re already onto the next victim. You often don’t give people a legitimate and fighting chance to prove themselves to you.


August 23rd – September 22nd

You are a perfectionist by nature, Virgo. You expect a lot from your potential partner. You expect them to be perfect in every way possible, and you won’t settle for anything less. The minor and most insignificant details about someone will keep you from getting to know them on a deeper level. It’s no secret that you want the best of the best, so when someone doesn’t portray to be just that, you’re not into it. Virgo, you tend to forget that perfection, in fact, does not exist… And someone might just be perfectly imperfect for you.


September 23rd – October 22nd

As a Libra, you are far too focused on finding someone who that hits all the points on your checklist of the perfect lover. You’ve acquired a certain “type” of person that you tend to always go for over the years, and it’s become extremely difficult for you to step away from that. Often times you won’t even take the time to get to know anyone who doesn’t fit that exact type, and in return, you push away some really great people. The Libra likes to stick to the status quo, and anything other than that isn’t really worthy of your time.


October 23rd – November 21st

You have an undying habit of rushing things in a relationship, which drives your partner away. The Scorpio loves the idea of being in love so much that the instant it enters their life, they will cling to it. You desperately want things to work out so badly that you wind up ruining things before they ever have the chance to start. You want your partner to commit the same way you do, and if you feel like they are not, you are quick to lose your shit and immediately freak out.


November 22nd – December 21st

For a Sagittarius, the concept of commitment terrifies the shit out of you. The thought of being tied down to one person for the rest of your life truly makes your skin crawl. You are used to living for yourself and yourself only. And the idea of having to fit another person into those plans does not interest you in the slightest bit. You want to live your life to the absolute fullest, without having to worry about someone else. To be completely honest, a relationship isn’t really on the top of your to-do list right now. You want to keep exploring yourself instead.


December 22nd – January 19th

You have a hard time expressing yourself when you meet new people. You will often hide away in your shell and it may cause you to come off as being boring or snobby. Nobody really gets the chance to get to know the real you because you won’t allow them to. You come off as being quiet, unemotional, and straight up bland in a relationship. It causes your partner to get bored or uninterested and move quickly on. You just can’t seem to hold someone’s interest for long because you can’t open your true self up to them.


January 20th – February 18th

Even when you have strong feelings towards someone, you like to play it off cool and casual. You’re all about the casual dating scene and use the “no strings attached” approach. But, deep down, the Aquarius craves something real, but will never let those feelings be known. You come across as detached and unemotional. Which, ironically is the complete opposite of how you actually feel.


February 19th – March 20th

As a Pisces, you are far too picky for your own good. The smallest attribute about someone can entirely change your feelings about them. You’ve gazed through dozens of prospective partners, but a very number of them have been able to fit your unrealistic standards. Because in your mind, you’d rather be alone than settle for someone who doesn’t fit your starry-eyed expectations. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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