I think that it is safe to say that I’ve had more “almost” relationships than long term connections at this point in my life. This is the type of relationship where you are technically together but aren’t entirely ready for a such a strenuous commitment just yet. So why do we do put ourselves in these “almost” type of situations? Is it the thrill of not knowing?
Do we just not want to be alone?
These relationships habitually begin with an initial attraction to each other. You’ll end up talking to that person every day and become comfortable with the presence of them in your everyday life.
When people ask if you’re in a relationship you are so torn between whether to say yes or no (because you aren’t exactly too sure yourself.) After a couple of months it will feel like it’s going somewhere and might even lead to a prospective relationship. But-eventually the connection will fade and you’ll talk less and less until they cease to exist in your life completely.
There are several reasons why these types of relationships are unable to make it for the long haul. Maybe one person is afraid to wholly commit to the other. Maybe there is someone else from the past that they forsee themselves getting back with eventually. Whatever the circumstances may be, there is some undetermined reason that the relationship is incapable of moving forward and become something resilient, so to speak.
I have been on both sides of this erratic spectrum. I have cut ties with my “almost” relationship and I’ve had someone cut ties with me. Either way, it is undeniably a shitty feeling.
The one thing we must always remember about “almost” relationships is that if it was meant to be, it would have been.
One of the most notable things I have unveiled from my own personal experience is that if somebody disengages things with you before they even begin, they were never really ready in the first place.
It is more than likely that you will encounter several of these situations during the course of your dating life. Keep in mind that eventually one of these will be the right fit for you and will evolve into something that can flourish and be long-lasting.
Until then, cheers to being single.