Your almost-relationship can be the thing that gives you growth, teaches you a lesson about love or life or something in between. It’s not a badge of shame or a reason to feel embarrassed. Remember that every time you have the courage to put your heart on the line, and offer it to someone, you are brave. Don’t stop being brave.
You fall head over heels and usually begin the anguish of analyzing and overanalyzing everything they do, and everything you do in relation to them.
And perhaps that’s what makes vulnerability so difficult – seeing your state of being, when you remove all the embellishments and pretenses and performances.
All good boyfriends do not see you as less than. (Sorry active misogynists, you are automatically disqualified.)
“Have you seen the movie, The Gods Must Be Crazy? My uncle was in it!”
You get to avoid most, if not all the mistakes of tragically overeager early doers.
And we make commitments and promises and vows, and we love; the best of us love until it hurts. But still I say, this might not be as hard as we all make it out to be.
When it comes to dating, there is nothing shittier than giving people false hope. It is better to be an “asshole” for telling someone you’re not interested in them or you’ve lost interest in them, than to keep them in an emotional purgatory where they think they have a chance.
The struggle that is trying to tell or re-tell a joke that only makes sense in a particular language or cultural context, and failing miserably.
You’re always the one reaching out, making plans, making an effort, and showing up. And deep inside you know if you stopped doing these things, the relationship would in fact, come to a screeching halt.