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March 19, 2015

7 Reasons Feeling Lost Means You’ll Be Happier In The End

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Eugenio Marongiu
Eugenio Marongiu

1. The point is not to be found

You will never feel settled, that is just the way life goes. You can dig your heels into a life you’ve built and still it could uproot, no matter how deep you’ve dug. This may seem unsettling at first, but eventually, it will set you free. It will free you from the shackles of certainty, of needing permanence. Once you can lean into the truth that life—and all aspects of it—is fleeting, you can let go of the need to have it all figured out. There is no sense in yearning for something that will never be and knowing with certainty that everything is uncertain will free you from wanting it all figured out.

2. To feel lost is a gift

You are open. When you are lost, you are not so arrogant or delusional about a belief system, thought pattern, or lifestyle. It means you are willing to learn, to be rerouted down an entirely different path. This is exciting. This is being open to life. This is letting yourself be swept away. You get to be surprised. You still have the ability and the wonderment to choose new paths and then detour and then completely change your mind all together. This is a freedom you can’t put a price on.

3. Being lost is a privilege many aren’t afforded

When you are lost and looking for a path, it means you are given choice. One of the most sacred privileges some people have over others is that they have an abundance of choice and opportunity. Many people in this world have very little to no choice about which path their life could take. They are faced with limited opportunity. Yet, to feel lost, and to be faced with choice is a rarity that you should be celebrating and utilizing in the best way possible. It is an incredible honor to be lost, to have the luxury of choice. This should be revered and preserved.

4. You have time

Life is long. You will likely feel lost your entire life and that is okay. That is how it’s meant to go. There is no sense in holding onto an idea of what it’s like to no longer be lost. Throughout your lifetime, you will change directions many, many times, that is, if you’re living openly, honestly, and vulnerably. The point of life is not to find a moment which feels comfortable and hold onto that so tight that you miss the rest of your life. You will always have a sense that there is more out there for you to experience and you will be right. Your lostness, that sense of wonder and curiosity, that slight stirring and dissatisfaction will propel you to find more of who you are across the landscape of your life. It is not worth fighting against this. You will only bring yourself suffering.

5. To be lost is your natural state

It takes quite a bit of denial and disillusionment to feel perpetually content and comfortable. I think many people desire this sort of life and the moment they get it, set it all on fire just to watch the flames. This is why people are self-destructive. This is why they crave excitement and drama. There are very few people that find solace in contentment and a comfortable life. Those people don’t spend their time worrying about being lost and that is okay. That is their path, but it is likely not yours. It is natural to not know what the hell you’re doing with your life. I think people feel that at any age. It doesn’t seem like a feeling that just goes away. There’s nothing wrong with you, that you feel lost. You’re right where you’re meant to be.

6. To feel lost is an indication that you want more out of your life

Being lost is not a signifier that you do not know what you’re doing with your life, at least not most of the time. It means that you have grown uncomfortable and discontent with your current state and that you desire more. It’s a time which signals to you that you have grown as a human and you have literally grown out of who you used to be. You’re ready for more, a new experience, a new belief system. Whatever had been holding you back before has been healed and you’re ready to move on. You’re in the inbetween and, while it can feel uncomfortable, it’s actually exciting. You’re ready for something else, something new, something different… and you’re open to it.

7. You get to reimagine what’s next

To be lost means you get to be open to what’s next in your life. What do you desire? What experience do you want next? What are your intentions? What do you want to do differently? Who are you yearning to grow into? These are all the questions you get to answer now. You are lost! It’s the best place to be, so celebrate it. Let yourself be lost and aimless and directionless. You’ll find your way and then you’ll lose it again. Such is this strange, beautiful, and terrifying life. Embrace it and determine your next adventure. It’s yours for the taking. TC mark

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