It’s not that you’re overtly looking to doom your relationship, either, but sometimes, going with the flow is counterproductive to actually getting anywhere.
They are open to advice and help from those who have been there before — but also that they know when to shut their ears off from detractors and people who doubt them and would love to see them fail.
You were the classmate they never passed that note to. The coworker they never chased because they feared the taboo of dating in the workplace. The friend of a friend. The friend’s ex, and therefore coded as off-limits forever.
Start saying: “If there’s love enough in this world that all of these couples are making their relationships work, there’s got to be something out there for me, too.”
Texting you that their plans fell through and if they could hang, only to spring “good, because I’m around the corner” when you say okay.
Say no when you really want to say no.
There are more sports bras than regular bras in any given load of laundry. At all times.
Just because you weren’t owed anything doesn’t mean there weren’t expectations.
You have never once backed down from a dare.
And when I say everything, I mean they witnessed every pimple, every preteen crush, every bad grade, crappy diorama, and awkward sartorial choice.