1. Single you is the realest you. It’s you untangled by someone’s else’s vision of you.
2. You are free.
3. Free to sleep with who you want, when you want.
4. Free to cook exactly what you want to eat.
5. Free to pack up and go somewhere—anywhere—without being accountable to or for your significant other.
6. And who doesn’t love freedom?
7. When you’re in a relationship, you’re willfully blind to the many *somethings better* that buzz around your atmosphere.
8. When you’re unattached, your eyes are open to the countless potential soulmates that exist for you.
9. Creating your own happiness is immeasurably rewarding.
10. Really, it’s a beautiful thing to know that your joy is not wholly dependent on a lover’s affection.
11. It’s too easy to lose yourself in a significant other. To fall out of touch with your wants and needs, in (often subconscious) favor of that other person’s wants and needs.
12. Self-sacrifice is, after all, a critical part of romantic commitment. We are expected to give up pieces of “me” to accommodate “us.” No bueno.
13. Don’t be fooled by the buttery promise of “losing yourself”—that shit is dangerous. You are the most important person in your life. And when you’re single, you’re free to live that truth to the fullest.
14. Relationships are taxing. Very taxing.
15. And when you’re in a relationship, all that exhausting work it requires seems like an integral part of the relationship. Like your relationship wouldn’t be real if it wasn’t painful. Groan.
16. When you’re single, though, you get to distribute that effort into pursuits that will always fill your life with happiness and purpose, regardless of your relationship status. Friendships, hobbies, your career—those things take work, too.
17. Sleeping with someone new is exhilarating.
18. Toeing the line between socializing and flirting is, too.
19. You are not bound by someone else’s schedule. You can use your time exactly as you like.
20. Nights are more restful when you have a queen sized bed to yourself.