Luis Pabon

Your friends are supposed to be your lifeline, your port in the storm, your healing. They are supposed to grant you peace, not be the architects of your agony.

You are always the one that has to do all the calling, all the texting, all the reaching out.

How they discuss their last breakup can be a window of insight into their readiness to invest in you. 

Truth is, it’s hard having to be your own safety net and having to catch yourself at every turn.

Every part of me wants to call you and ask how you are doing and really mean it.

In a healthy relationship, our goal is to make our partners feel like they are valued, respected, cherished, wanted and loved.

It has more to do with another person’s unresolved issues, hurts, wounds, fears and past experiences. It speaks more to them not being at a place in their lives where they feel secure and good about themselves.

Stop giving package deals to men who only deserve happy meals.

Loving yourself enough involves rediscovering and refining who you are. It involves bringing yourself with you where ever you go and never leaving yourself home.

These days, we don’t do relationships. We do relationSHITS that come in the form of flirtationships, situationships, textationships and infatuationships but not REAL ACTUAL relationships.

All I was to you was a pit stop in your exploration, a post adolescent experiment that ended as quickly as it began.

You will be seen as a sugar daddy.

Things that were indeed apart of my identity were things I tended to overlook constantly. Ironically by overlooking myself, I somehow emitted an energy that enabled others to overlook me as well.

Does the constant revolving door of meaningless hookups eventually lead to the generalized devaluation of the American gay male? I think so.

Initially I came to this community searching for love, intimacy and brotherhood. In return, I got shade, infidelity, loneliness and disunity. The self-loathing in this community forces you to encounter a series of broken men who are self-destructive, hurtful, cruel and vindictive towards one another.