The Hardest Thing About Love Is Falling Out Of It

Jati Putra
Jati Putra

Truth be told, it’s the falling in love part that isn’t hard. That’s the easiest part of it all. Love happens out of the blue one day, when all  of a sudden, your lips can’t wait to scream it out loud. Adrenaline pumps through every one of your veins and you feel like you are going insane. Which you kind of are, because that’s just how crazy love can be.

The hardest thing about love, is falling out of it. And it’s not because you want to do it. It’s because you have to. Maybe someone just broke your heart, and you have to move on by yourself. Or maybe your partner did something really awful and even though you still love him, you can’t forget and forgive what he did.

No matter what the case may be, falling out love is absolutely heart wrenching. Not only are you in it alone, but you can’t go to the person you love for comfort anymore. You can’t confide in them like before. You can’t lean on them for support. Falling out love also takes time. You can’t snap your fingers and magically feel better. You can’t hook up with a cute dude a week later, and magically feel more more stable.

Because if you really loved someone, then it’s going to take a hell of a lot more than a cute guy and alcohol to get over them.

If it was a true, once in a million type of love, you aren’t ever going to forget them. And you will always hold a special place in your heart.

Love is always talked about in a positive light. In a life changing way. But love sometimes, is anything but magic. It’s difficult. It’s challenging. It can knock you over. Sure, falling in love is incredibly amazing, but it’s the falling out that messes you up.

It especially messes you up, if you weren’t the one who suggested it. Or if you’re the one who gets blindsided when your partner tells you they don’t feel the same as you anymore. What are you supposed to do then? Beg for them back? Try to make them change their minds? Put on a hot outfit in an attempt to win them back?

No. You have to survive by yourself now.

You have to stay sane and keep afloat even if the water is begging for you back. Even if it kills you in the process, you have to at least try to keep on walking. I know it’s painful. I admit, it’s worse to feel that way than to break any bone in your body. And I know you wish you could have a broken neck instead of a broken heart.

But, if everyone in the world died from broken hearts, no one would be left to tell their story.

No one would be left in the world at all. You see, this happens to most everyone. Sometimes, falling in love doesn’t mean it’s going to be forever. Sometimes, it isn’t going to be permanent. And sometimes, falling out of love becomes your reality. 

And now is your chance to not die in the process. Don’t sink down from the loss. Fall in love with life instead. Fall in love with how the sun shines in the summer. Fall in love with the way the breeze provides you relief from the intense heat.

Fall in love with how your dog lays by your side every night. Fall in love with the little things.

There’s too much falling out in this world. There’s always too much fall out. It’s much nicer to do the opposite. And it doesn’t have to be with another person. It can just be with something as simple as a flower in the soil, or a particular sunset on the beach. Fall in love with the little things, and suddenly, falling out of love won’t seem that impossible anymore. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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