1996, 1984, 1972, 1960
You choose people who are emotionally unavailable.
When you choose people who are emotionally unavailable what you’re really choosing is the ending. If you know how something is going to turn out you can’t be surprised. And if you’re choosing someone who keeps you at arm’s length, it isn’t that you’re falling in love you’re infatuated. Love scares you and that’s why you choose the people you do.
1997, 1985, 1973, 1961
You gravitate towards fuck boys.
You like a challenge. You’ll never date someone who is safe and adores you or is completely into you. That’s too easy. You keep those guys in your back pocket for safe keeping. But you’ll always choose the complicated bad boy.
1998, 1986, 1974, 1962
You jump ahead in your mind.
You tend to have long-term relationship goals too soon in the relationships. It’s nice to play the game of what can this be but when it’s influencing the relationship so much you never get there, you have to take a step back and move slow.
2011, 1999, 1987, 1975, 1963
You compare everyone to your ex.
We all have that one ex that was amazing. The one we wish we didn’t lose. But as you play the compassion game what you’re really doing is not giving a good person a fair shot.
2000, 1988, 1976, 1964
Your trust issues make you paranoid AF.
You question everyone and everything just because a few people have hurt you in the past. But don’t judge someone based on what others have done to you.
2001, 1989, 1977, 1965
You let people back into your life who have hurt you.
There are some people who don’t deserve second chances.
2002, 1990, 1978, 1966
You accept less than you deserve.
Accepting less than you deserve isn’t just disrespecting you yourself but it disrespects everyone who has ever treated you well consistently. Friends. Relationships. Family. If you can’t respect yourself enough to ask for more, do it for them.
2003, 1991, 1979, 1967
You date for sport.
You’ve dated so much you don’t even know what you want anymore. And if someone decent came into your life you wouldn’t even be able to recognize it.
2004, 1992, 1980, 1968
Your standards are unrealistic.
No one is perfect and having a checklist you hope people mark off is always going to leave you dissatisfied. Because no one is perfect until you fall in love with them and you can’t fall in love with anyone until you accept their flaws and realize despite these things this person is the best thing that’s ever happened to me.
2005, 1993, 1981, 1969
You’re not good at the whole loyalty thing.
You think you want a relationship but you get really bored quickly. You pine after someone you think you really want but even if you got them it wouldn’t last. You’re always going to be better at being single until you realize that grass isn’t greener on the other side.
2006, 1994, 1982, 1970
You’re too selfless.
You let everyone else take what’s yours.
2007, 1995, 1983, 1971
You let people walk all over you.
You don’t have a backbone and you’re always going to be with people who have dominant personalities and look to control you. You lose your voice in these relationships because you put your own needs aside.