Kim Quindlen

Aries: You’re always down for anything.

The only timeline that you need to abide by is your own. If you fall in love, it will be at the right time for you. If you get married, it will be at the right time for you. There is no way to get the timing wrong – your timing is the right timing.

Functioning in the midst of little sleep, lots of pain, and/or extreme fatigue.

Aquarius: Secretly, without anyone realizing it.

Gemini: To be yourself without hesitation.

Green lights. Perfect timing. Music goosebumps. Delicious coffee. Effortless friendships.

Sagittarius: Your straightforwardness at once impresses and terrifies people. They know you’re the person to go to when they need honest and candid advice, but they also know that you don’t sugarcoat anything and aren’t afraid to be truthful, which can be scary to one’s self esteem.

Taurus: Your limitless warmth and tenderness.

Pisces: You had a very specific vision of what you wanted your relationship to ‘look like’ and he continually felt like he wasn’t measuring up to that standard.

Find joy in the little things. Holiday music, lazy Saturday mornings, laughing so hard that you cry, hot coffee, leaving work early, light traffic, fresh laundry, smiling with a stranger, a beer on the house. These are the little moments that make up a life.

Aries: You’re scared of becoming boring.

Capricorn: Your best match is the person who challenges you to take the leap, who refuses to back down and let you ‘protect’ yourself by assuming that your relationship can only end in heartbreak. You feel most loved being around someone who loves you for you, but who isn’t afraid to tell you to ‘stop being an idiot’ or to ‘tell your brain to shut up’ when you start convincing yourself that this can’t possibly work.

Aquarius: Trying to detach yourself from the situation and avoid your feelings is only going to prolong the pain and make everything worse; breathe it in, feel it, acknowledge it, talk about it with those you trust, and then give ourself as much time as you need in order to heal.

When you’re hugging a loved one, give yourself a millisecond or two to appreciate that they are in your arms, right now, smiling and breathing and warm.

Libra: You are a bit of a ‘lily padder.’ You pretty much click with everyone, so it’s not hard from you to constantly be discovering new connections with new people. The problem is that the minute things get slightly less flirty and a little more serious, you’re moving on to the next thing.

“I didn’t think I’d make it through the breakup the first time around. If I tried to win her back and she turned me down, I don’t think I could deal with it all over again.”

Leo: You tend to derive a lot (or sometimes, all) of your self-worth from your achievements and successes.

How to help yourself: Continue working hard and striving to be the best and don’t feel bad about it. But also remind yourself on a constant basis that you are human, you aren’t perfect, and it’s more important that you are trying than it is that you are always succeeding.

Walk away from relationships where you’re made to feel like you’re not good enough, like you need to change, or like you’re the second choice.