This Is How You Keep Ruining Your Chances At Love, Based On Your Zodiac Sign


(March 21st to April 19th)

You put way too much stock into the ‘falling’ stage of love and not enough into the part that comes after – the one where you experience the joy and excitement of sharing your life with someone else. What’s getting in your way is that you’re convinced that after you finish ‘falling’ for someone, everything gets boring and predictable, whereas it’s quite the opposite. Love is a really scary, exciting, and unpredictable experience, no matter what stage of it you’re in. Once you can realize that, your love life will feel a lot less complicated.


(April 20th to May 21st)

You have no problems being a loving, supportive, compassionate partner. Your issue comes with learning how to be flexible and adaptable when it comes to dating. Your sense of security in the dating world comes from having control, and you need to learn how to accept the fact that the only person you can control is yourself.


(May 22nd to June 21st)

You have to learn how to be comfortable not always being the light, happy-go-lucky one, especially when you start getting a little more serious with people. Your humor and enthusiasm are some of your best qualities and some of the reasons why people fall for you, but you have to remember that it’s okay to also show them your sensitive, anxious, insecure side. You have to learn how to be human in front of the people you’re dating.


(June 22nd to July 22nd)

Your emotional and protective nature is something to be celebrated, but you also have to work on being comfortable with letting go and leaving things somewhat up to chance. You fall fast and unafraid, and that’s okay and even good – most people are scared to be that vulnerable. But you need to start working on accepting the fact that you can’t control every aspect of your dating love – some of it’s up to you of course, but some of it’s up to the other person, and some of it’s up to chance. That’s just the way it is.


(July 23rd to August 22nd)

You are used to doing things your way. It’s how you’ve managed to be so successful and ambitious at such a young age. But part of dating or being in a relationship is acknowledging that you are only 50% of the puzzle and that you have to be willing to bend sometimes, in order to accommodate the other person and their life into your own. It’s not about giving up yourself or the things that make you you. It’s about learning that welcoming someone else into your life doesn’t make you any less you.


(August 23rd to September 22nd)

Overthinking – that is your biggest problem in your love life. When you go on a date, you’re thinking of all the things you might be doing or saying wrong, instead of enjoying the person you’re with. When you’re sending a text message, it takes multiple rewrites before you end up just cringing and shutting your eyes and sending something. You’re putting way too much pressure on yourself to seem perfect, cool, composed, and everything else that you are needlessly convinced you need to be. Take a break, go easy on yourself, and remember that you want your partner to fall for you for you, not for who you’re pretending to be. The right person will love you for all the things that make up who you are, including those aspects of yourself that you’re convinced you need to be ashamed about.


(September 23rd to October 22nd)

You are a bit of a ‘lily padder.’ You pretty much click with everyone, so it’s not hard from you to constantly be discovering new connections with new people. The problem is that the minute things get slightly less flirty and a little more serious, you’re moving on to the next thing. Start making yourself be more aware of your tendency to be flighty and indecisive in your dating life. Going from person to person without ever getting to know them on a deeper level is only going to fulfill you for so long.


(October 23rd to November 22nd)

Your issues with trust are what keep getting in your way. You have a magnetic and contagious personality, so people fall for you easily. The problem is that you have a hard time letting them get to know you on anything below a surface level, because you’re afraid of being hurt or caught off guard. Although you can’t totally protect yourself from being hurt or blindsided, you should trust yourself enough to know that you have a good instinct, you’re good at reading people, and you have a good sense of who is going to treat you well.


(November 23rd to December 21st)

You need to let go of the idea that love is always supposed to be easy, light, and carefree. It’s great to be that way in the beginning, when you’re dating around and meeting different people and figuring out what kind of person you’re looking for in a lifelong partner. But ultimately you need to focus on the fact that even with the most perfect significant other in the world for you, love is always going to be a challenge.


(December 22nd to January 20th)

Being careful and patient when it comes to dating (which you are) is very beneficial, but sometimes you take it too far to the extreme – in the case of being overly cautious, pessimistic, and way too reserved. Not every person you meet is going to screw you over or break your heart. It’s important to be careful and selective with who you give your time and your heart to, but if you try to find something wrong with every person you date in order to have an excuse to run in the opposite direction, you’re never going to find someone. Keep your standards high (as you should), but try giving people the benefit of the doubt when your gut tells you that you should.


(January 21st to February 18th)

Your independence and strong sense of self is something to be admired, but your purposeful detachment is going to be your downfall. It’s important to stay in touch with yourself, to refuse to lose yourself within another person. But it’s also important to be willing to jump when it comes to love – being aloof and unemotional (as you tend to be) will certainly protect you, but it’s also going to hinder you from ever discovering that life-changing connection of emotional intimacy with another person.


(February 19th to March 20th)

Your compassion and selflessness are some of the best parts of your personality – including when you’re in a relationship. But being sensitive and considerate of others does not mean that you can’t also stick up for yourself and stand your ground. When it comes to your love life, you need to make sure to stick up for yourself and remember that you deserve to be treated just as well as you treat others. The best thing you can do for yourself is to only spend your time with people who you know are going to appreciate you for you and not what you can do for them – people who appreciate your kindness and generosity, but who will never take advantage of it. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

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