Date someone who pushes you out of your comfort zone. Nothing worthwhile has ever been accomplished without a healthy dose of discomfort. Change is uncomfortable for most people. Without change, life cannot move forward. From the day you are born, your life changes daily. Some days the changes won’t be noticeable. On other days, the changes will transform the rest of your life. So many couples describe getting too comfortable as the culprit for the breakdown of the relationship. Don’t let your comfort zone hold you back from having the relationship of your dreams. The unknown is where all of the things you are looking for now can be found.
Date someone who pushes you to be your absolute best self. When you’re in the right relationship, you will naturally become the best version of yourself. Your partner will awaken the parts of you that have been craving transformation but haven’t yet had a reason to transform. The right person will make you want to chase your dreams because you’ll know someone believes in you. The right person will encourage you to speak up for yourself because they will value your voice. The right person will always be there for you, even if you fail. They will not try to manipulate you into being what they want you to be.
Date someone who pushes you to question what you’ve been taught to believe as truth. I am not talking about core values. We all hold strongly to certain core values and beliefs that we expect the people we love to respect. It is important to recognize that we all share a different worldview. The right person will not always blindly agree with you. They should help you question why you think what you think and why you believe what you believe without trying to change you.
It is sad to think about how many people end up settling simply because they found someone who thinks the exact same way they do. What a boring life to be lived. There is no excitement or challenge to be found in a stagnant relationship. Date someone who asks you questions that will make you think. This is why you have your own life and your own thoughts!
They will make you question what you’ve been taught to believe as the absolute truth. People who think exactly alike and never question each other become extremely rigid and narrow minded. This is the whole reason groupthink exists and the internet is filled with trolls. Even if you don’t end up changing your mind, your mind should always be open to new ideas.
Date someone who pushes you to do the same for them. The right partner will not want to date a doormat. Your partner will want to be with someone who pushes them, too. They will want you to encourage them to take risks and make positive changes in their own lives. They will be inspired by watching you live your best life. They will want to step outside of their comfort zone, knowing they have you walking beside them.