It is difficult dating a junkie. You need more patience, tolerance and love than ever. But sometimes you feel so sorry for the other person it becomes difficult to walk away. Somewhere in between you want to help them, you want to try to make them better for you. That is if you don’t sink in to their pain and addiction also. There are certain times you have to get them legal and medical help too.
These are 10 truths of dating a drug addict.
1. They would want to have you do drugs with them
It is either you are with them or not. But it is always a difficult choice. Because you are trying to help them, you wouldn’t consider it such a bad idea to have a feel of the drugs. You would think, well it will have an impression on them since you are doing something for them, why shouldn’t they do something for you. You just want them to feel a sense of security when they are around you, and perhaps doing drugs with them will restore the confidence they have in you.
2. They are as scared as you
They are scared too. But not for you.
You may be scared to lose them, but they are scared to lose the fantasy that drugs provide. They are scared to be like you in the actual sense.
3. They are selfish
They are very selfish, because in the long run you will never be their priority. They will always want to have a dose and bond better with drugs than find ways to add value to your world. They simply want to swim in fantasies and wouldn’t contribute to your reality.
4. You don’t know if you have them or not
They can be so volatile. Instead of working on improving your relationship, they are battling their drug addiction. They are always trying to be for you, but it seems that they only get you caught up in their worries.
5. They are emotionally unstable
They are not sure about their emotional stability. Most times they are not even present in the relationship.
6. You would have to tolerate other drug addicts
Drug addicts tend to hang out with other drug addicts. You would have to be tolerant of their friends also who must be addicts as well.
7. They would always lie to you for money
Money is a crucial tool to sustain such an expensive habit. So if they are not having the money to buy drugs, they will certainly run to you for funds. But it could go beyond giving them money for drugs. Most drug addicts show indiscipline and are not responsible. So you may be the one buying them meals, clothes and paying for their miscellaneous expenses.
8. You are not sure if they will be there
They could run away with some other drug addict. There is no certainty in the future of the relationship.
9. You find it hard to trust them
They must have lied to you in the past. It is hard to trust them because they are always looking for ways to get money for their terrible habit. Even when they become clean, you will find it difficult to trust them.
10. You will have to forgive them for who they are
Dating an addict certainly pushes you to understanding the depth of forgiveness. Of course it is a struggle for you to make them better persons. Unfortunately, you just have to be as tolerant as possible. It is one thing though to forgive them, it is another thing to forgive yourself for being in love with them.