Perpetually Single Girls Are Actually The Most Romantic Of All

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She’s the girl who says she doesn’t date, the one who turns down invitations to dinner and doles out polite rejections at the bar. You’ve probably met her before. Maybe you are her. She’s the perpetually single girl.

People can’t remember the last time she dated anyone. They ask her about it a lot. After all, girls who are single by choice are usually criticized the most.

“Why don’t they just give someone a shot?” they ask.

“Don’t you think you’re being too picky?” they ask.

“Aren’t you tired of being alone?” they ask.

People assume she doesn’t believe in love because she doesn’t actively seek it. But the truth is this: sometimes the perpetually single girls are the ones who believe in the greatest love of all.

Perpetually single girls don’t settle. They don’t believe in accepting anything less than they deserve. If it’s not heart-pounding, if it’s not soul-stirring, if it’s breathtaking, they don’t want it. They know there’s no point to a love that doesn’t change you. They’re waiting for something extraordinary.

Of course, those kinds of love don’t just appear out of thin air. Perpetually single girls don’t mind the wait. They never needed someone’s love to be whole; they’ve been alone long enough to accept who they are and love themselves in turn. They are enough for themselves, and they know they’re enough for someone else, too.

Because it’s not that they can’t get a boyfriend — it’s that they don’t want to waste their time on the wrong people. They have little patience for awkward small talk or hours of uneventful conversations. They believe in something bigger — in instant connections, in chemistry, in powers that are greater than themselves. When the right person comes along, they’ll know it. They just haven’t found them yet.

After all, just because she’s single doesn’t mean she’s not a romantic — if anything, it may mean she’s the biggest one of all. She spends her evenings reading books that make her heart race and she listens to songs that make her stomach erupt in butterflies and she watches movies that make her chest ache and she thinks, “This. This is what I want.” She isn’t disillusioned enough to believe in anything less than magic.

She won’t settle until she finds that. After all, she’s proven her patience. Because in the end, the payoff is worth it — she knows when she finally finds someone she want to , she’ll find her forever love. Thought Catalog Logo Mark

About the author

Callie Byrnes

Callie is a writer, editor, and publisher at Thought Catalog. Her debut book, ‘The Words We Left Behind,’ was released in January 2024.

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