If you’re bad at dirty talk, there’s no shame in responding with an enthusiastic “uh-huh”.
Trim your damn fingernails. And file down the edge! No girl likes getting scraped up in there D:
It’s not porn. Don’t freak out if she doesn’t wail like a dying baboon the moment you even touch her. Unless she asks, don’t try to pound her into oblivion for 3 hours with a change in sex positions every 2 minutes, smack or spit on her vag, or get angry if/when she can’t orgasm.
Rhythm beats speed, intensity defeats power.
How about a nice kiss?
You don’t have to go stampeding towards the clitoris.
Do not treat her clit like a scratch and win card.
If you’re a guy, prioritize foreplay. Makes her feel more comfortable and prolongs the experience
She might have to guide you in. Sometimes for a new pilot it like you’re flying blind.
Sometimes there’s funny noises. You don’t hear them in porn but they appear in real life.
Your first time is probably going to be quick. Don’t beat yourself up over it.
The average penis is 5.5 inches. You are big enough. She’s going to feel it, and it’s going to feel good.
80% of you being “the best she’s ever had” has nothing to do with penis size or technique, its all in her head and has to do with how amped she is to be having sex with you and how sexy she feels. so be sure to tell her how sexy she is, go down on her first, when you’re down there, offhandedly comment that she smells/tastes good. Make sure she knows how sexy you think she is.
When you are going down on her and during sex LISTEN TO HER. Do more of what makes her moan and makes her say shit like “Keep doing that”. When she says “Keep doing that,” keep doing EXACTLY THAT. Don’t “do it” harder or faster or anything different.
Harder doesn’t mean faster
Don’t try to imitate porn. That stuff is for show and uncomfortable as hell.
If she says don’t stop then you’re doing something right. DO NOT SPEED UP OR CHANGE RHYTHM. Maintain the same speed and motion you were before
A condom is much cheaper than 18 years of child support
Express yourself, she wants you to. Guys who learn from porn tend to be really quiet and unresponsive, while expecting wails of bliss from the woman.
My gf tells me that she’s been turned off by guys in the past who would have sex and reach orgasm without making hardly any noise or saying anything. Apparently it’s creepy. Let your partner know how you feel and how much you’re enjoying this.
If she is enjoying what you are doing….keep doing it. If you don’t know if she is enjoying it….ask.
Keep that in mind the rest of your life.
There will be awkward moments, don’t overthink things, have fun, communicate. Your body was designed to do this, let nature take over.
You don’t always have to fuck her hard
In fact sometimes that’s not right to do
Sometimes you got to make some love
And fuckin’ give her some smooches too