1. When out of nowhere, now and again, you have a sense of pure, unadulterated happiness… usually for something mundane. When you get your favorite seat on the train and you sit there, sipping on your favorite iced coffee and staring out the window and just feel like all is right with the world… that, my friends, means you are doing something right.
2. When you can’t explain why you love something… you just do. That’s one of the best kinds of love: when someone asks you why and you don’t have any concrete reasons, you just feel it. Love is not logical like that, it is not a monster than can be sorted out through the mind. You’re onto something real when you’re naturally not doing that.
3. You are okay with the things that hurt and otherwise affected you the most in the past– actually, you’re grateful for them. You are seeing the story unfolding because you have gotten to the next page or chapter. When you can see in hindsight, it means you’re beyond it.
4. Unfortunately, if you are a commodity to be discussed among people, even if it isn’t in the ways you’d prefer, you’ve become something worth their time. Granted you should listen to the criticism and try to understand other perspectives and maybe work on your own mentality, but overall, having “haters” as they call them isn’t always a bad thing– it means you’re doing something that effects people profoundly.
5. When you start thinking a little less about yourself and a little more about what you do for other people. You’re beyond having to suffice for your own needs. You’ve taken care of yourself, and you’re onto the next most, if not equally most, important thing: what you can do for others.
6. You’re not as afraid as you used to be. You’ve seen the “worst possible scenarios” unfold and you’ve found your way out. Things seem less daunting now.
7. Even when you have a bad day, you have the ability to accept that some days will be like this, and that other days will be better… in other words, you’ve accepted the human condition.
8. You have a new respect for people who are older and wiser than you– the smartest people know that there is still a lot that they don’t know.
9. This is a big one, and it’s not to worry if you don’t experience this: but the feeling that you are doing what you are meant to be doing. I’m going to throw in a personal anecdote here, for the sake of example: even when I have a bad day, and I’m not thrilled with my writing, I’ve gotten some bad comments and I’m feeling down, I somehow manage to remind myself that I’m doing what I love most, I am trying my hardest, and tomorrow will be different. This kind of ideology really stems from following what some people would define as your “calling.”
10. Even if you don’t have a grasp on it yet, you at least know what you’re meant to do. You may be far from it, but you know what path you’d like to take. That’s more important than being there sometimes. To have direction and vision in your life is what will propel you forward, it is what you find when you’ve found yourself.