When you’ve been single for a while, it’s easy to often obsess over when God will finally send you someone worth your time or if you will find someone that matches all of your qualities and values.
In a culture that is fast and quick when it comes to meeting someone and encounters that often lead to just texting and ghosting, the thought of meeting someone who actually wants to spend time with you and take you out on dates seems like it fails to exist.
But it does exist.
I found true love in my best friend and believe me when I tell you it is the most beautiful thing. Some things really do come unexpectedly and are worth waiting for.
Here are 10 reasons to believe you have found true love
1. The way he looks at you.
When a man is truly in love with you, he admires you and stares at you like you are the only person in the room and it’s honestly the sweetest thing. If my boyfriend and I go on dates, he’ll have many moments when he just stares at me like he is communicating with me through his eyes and then he’ll just look at me and tell me he ‘loves me.’ l know it sounds straight out of the Notebook but believe me when I tell you it’s real!
2. When you are unhappy, he feels it.
I’ll have times when I am just depressed and insecure and if I am, my bf literally feels sad with me.
He hates the fact that I have moments when I don’t feel good about myself and will do anything it takes to see me happy and feel better. He’ll just say, “It makes me sad because you don’t deserve that kind of hate.” When I realized this, I knew for sure that he has love for me that runs deeper than just the physical.
3. He constantly says, ‘I love you.’
As women, we already know that men are basically black and white. Whatever they say, they usually mean and if a man professes their love for you over and over again, and most importantly, shows it, then believe that it is true. It takes a lot for men to say, ‘I love you.’
4. He prays with you.
A man that actually cares is going to wish nothing but the utmost best for your life and will pray with you. We could be having a steamy moment, and my bf will drop everything and pray some words of encouragement for me. You need someone who cares that deeply about you that they seek God in everything.
5. He cares about your career and life goals.
My bf and I were in a store the other day looking for my future grad gift and the woman fitting jewelry asked me when I will graduate. a little unsure, I said, “In two years,” and my bf looked at me and said, “Bri, have confidence. If you want to graduate in two years, you can do it.” Someone who loves you cares about your future just as much as you do and will root for you all the way.
6. He accepts ALL of you.
I have depression, I’m moody, I can be a bitch sometimes and I’m in therapy.
But, he still loves me through ALL of it.
When I tell you we have been through it all together. Someone who cares about you is not just in it for when times are good and when you look perfect and when your life is peachy. True love is there in the good, the bad, and the ugly.
7. He always reminds you that you are beautiful.
My bf compliments me 24/7 and constantly reminds me of my worth. Someone who cares about doesn’t put you down. He won’t compare you to other women or pick at your flaws. If he truly loves you, he will always want you know that you are a gem and that you deserve to know it.
8. He sets sexual boundaries based on your needs.
This was one of the things that made me know for sure my bf is a gem sent from God. He never pressures me into doing anything I am not comfortable with and cares more about my emotional well-being more than sex. A man that loves you does what makes you happy and thinks about your needs before his sexual desires.
9. You can be 100% yourself around him.
Someone who truly loves you makes you feel comfortable! You don’t have to wear makeup all the time and feel all nervous and uptight on dates. You can just be yourself and have a good time. It takes so much work to be anyone but yourself.
10. He reminds you that you deserve this type of love.
I have cried because my bf is just so sweet and thoughtful and for a first relationship, it is very unexpected, especially in the society we live in today. Someone who truly loves you will always remind you of how you deserve to be treated and that you are worth it.
I know it’s hard to believe that good guys exist and that you’ll find someone that is for you, but believe me when I tell you that God will send you exactly what you need at the right time. You just have to trust and be patient. Things happen for a reason. If you are single and haven’t found anyone yet, God literally could be saving you for what you deserve.
Always believe that true love does exist and know that you can find it in its purest form.