You aren’t supposed to fit in. You have a thousand ideas in your head but can’t seem to choose one—and you’re not sure you want to.
You have various skills. You don’t want to sound like you’re bragging, but you’re pretty good at each of them.
Instead of feeling energized, this gift makes you feel like a failure. You can’t decide which direction to go in life, much less you should eat at a restaurant.
You can’t decide because you want to make the best choice. You want to have numerous experiences. It’s about learning and curiosity, not necessarily the outcome.
You notice your peers making progress in their field. You know you shouldn’t feel jealous, but you do. Sometimes you wish you could see your definite path. You don’t want to stick to one job. You want to fulfil all your passions.
You’re scared that if you don’t figure yourself out, you’ll fall behind in life.
You start feeling anxious about making even the most minor decisions. Your friends start labelling you as irresponsible and inconsistent and your self-esteem plummets.
Maybe you aren’t supposed to think inside the box. Maybe you aren’t meant to specialize or have one true calling. Maybe you’re an idea generator, thought leader, generalist, innovator. Maybe you’re supposed to use your creative talents in all their capacity.
If this feels true for you, you’re not indecisive. You’re a multipotentialite (someone with many interests and creative pursuits).
Here are five telling signs you’re a multipotentialite.
1. You have multiple interests that aren’t necessarily connected.
You can’t seem to choose a career path because your passions don’t relate to each other. There might not be a job for the skills you want to combine. Maybe you enjoy fine arts and medicine. You want to learn about each field in depth.
2. You enjoy learning new skills, curiosity and knowledge.
You’re an overthinker and feeler. When you plan a trip, go to a new restaurant, or meet new people, you want to immerse yourself in the experience. You don’t want to miss anything. This response comes off as indecisive to other people. However, you feel you shouldn’t be limited to one adventure or another.
3. You can be interested in a project one minute and move on to something completely different the next.
You get bored quickly. You might try a hobby and decide it’s not for you. You learn a new skill; once you master it, you move on to the next. You don’t see this as a waste of time because you’re learning something new. When you’re done, you’re done.
4. Your brain doesn’t turn off.
Your strength and burden are that you’re full of ideas. You’re a problem solver but can’t necessarily follow through with a plan. You can be forgetful. You have more thoughts than you can write down. You suffer from insomnia and anxiety because you’re constantly making up stories in your head.
5. Routine, predictability, and monotone tasks are your biggest fear.
Part of the reason you find it challenging to commit to a task is your belief that you’ll be stuck there, forever, in some kind of perpetual hell. You prefer a somewhat controlled environment with the ability to move around freely, expand, and have adventure.
If you’ve ever felt like an imposter, a jack of all trades but master of none, understand that this is your gift. Many people wouldn’t dream of moving out of their comfort zone, nor could they, because of fear.
In a dynamic world, you can quickly adapt to change. You have multiple skills to draw on, and you can work in various industries. It’s time to stop looking at your multipotentiality as a weakness and start harnessing your strengths.
You only need to recognize your limitations so you can maximize your talents.
Here are some common multipotentialite barriers you may face—and how to overcome them.
Indecisiveness. You probably don’t want to make decisions beforehand because you want to see how you feel in the moment. I get it. If you’re going to a restaurant, a trip, or shopping, try to view the website prior. That way, you’ve already narrowed your decisions down to 2-4 items. Practice making more decisions.
You can’t choose a career. You can work on as many projects as you like, you won’t get far if you don’t have a plan. Master one or two. First, have a job that brings in a steady income, then you can fund your passion. This passion can be a hobby, volunteer act, a side hustle, or even your main hustle. Remember, you can have multiple careers. You aren’t stuck to one job for the rest of your life. Alternatively, you can pursue a job that allows you to work in different fields like filming, teaching, nursing, or creative arts.
You have a hard time starting projects. The book Refuse to Choose by Barbara Sher talks about how to get into action when you feel stuck. It begins with backward planning, which involves creating a flow chart of your end goal then breaking down the steps to get there. This method also exposes any fears you might have and reduces risk. Your gift is generating ideas. Get an expert to help you map out the other steps along the way if you get stuck.
You have a hard time finishing anything. You have a hard time finishing projects because you take in information quickly and get bored. It isn’t that you don’t want to do the hard work. It’s that you’re not as interested in the middle parts of a project. You value harmony and happiness. When a project starts to feel like it’s taking your peace away, you’re out. That’s why you need to do what interests you. Instead of letting fear rule, work on setting stronger boundaries, so you’re less overwhelmed.
“The reason you stop when you do: you got what you came for.” Barbara Sher.
If you’ve been called indecisive, inconsistent, or can’t seem to stick to one project, if you have varying interests, you’re a multipotentialite. Your gift is that you can generate ideas and adapt quickly to changing times. You’re supposed to use your creativity in all its capacity. Don’t let your barriers stop you from growing. Instead, identify your areas of weakness and get support in them. Focus on your gift and strengths. The world needs free thinkers and innovators. It’s how we learn about each other. It’s how we grow.