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June 8, 2017

Stay Single Until You Find Someone You Can Sit Comfortably In Silence With

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Ioana Cristina Casapu

“True friendship comes when the silence between two people is comfortable”, a wise person (that stayed anonymous) once said.

As I age, I give so much more credit to this statement than I did in my early twenties.

I’ve always thought that if two people will not be able to sit comfortably in silence for entire hours – that relationship is doomed to fail.

You see, silence has its benefits. 

It’s not just healthy, but proof that the relationship has grown strong and it does not need nonsense chatting and continuous blabber to be perfectly functional.

Silence is beautiful.

It proves how two people can simply carry on with their day, working in each others presence, focusing on tasks at hand or just being lazy without feeling the need to talk.

There’s something ultimately so comforting and refreshing about shared silences.

They offer the space for the mind to unwind, and for the body to lose the tension accumulated throughout a busy day.

They bring a peaceful, mindful experience of togetherness and intimacy, where words are very unnecessary, because a gaze at your loved one, a gentle smile or touch can speak more than 100 sentences of nothingness.

Silence makes room for complicity and belonging. 

It doesn’t hurt to try spending the mornings listening solely to a beautiful record you both love, or sharing quiet evenings in each others company while diving in your newly favourite books (careful, not smartphones!).

It takes courage to stay still and to only hear the sound of each others breath when the outside world is so crazy and it makes you feel you’re running out of moments to reconnect.

Just try it.

I promise you will find pleasure, and you will learn to treasure the infinite relaxation silence can bring. TC mark