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March 17, 2017

15 Signs He’s The Guy You Should Be With Forever

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Elizabeth Franks

My husband is a one-of-a-kind, goes-the-extra-mile, would-do-anything-for-me-even-if-he-was-busy BABE, and I never thought I’d end up with a guy like him.

Up until we met, I had become so accustomed to guys who wouldn’t call me, guys who would stand me up, guys who would make me feel stupid for wanting to spend time with them, guys who would only want “one thing” from me, and guys I’d post a photo on Instagram for in hopes that he’d heart it and want to hang out with me, that I became so accustomed to being treated like crap.

So, when my then-boyfriend, now-husband, came along, it was a culture shock. I had never been admired. I had never been respected. And I had never been treated so right.

Since getting to know him, date him, love him, and marry him, my husband has truly showed me how a lady should be treated. It took me a while to get used to him actually calling me and actually paying attention to me, but he’s the best decision I’ve ever made. He’s made me feel so loved and so worthy of being loved.

Having your guy treat you right is seriously the best thing since sliced bread.

1. He loves me even when I’m awful.

And boy, can I be awful. Just catch me around that “time of the month” or when I’m hungry or when I’m full of stress and anxiety. I can get super emotional, super angry, super short, and super rude. But he still loves me through it. He gives me grace. He knows that when I get in those moods it’s because there’s something wrong, so he tries to find out what it is. He doesn’t write me off. He helps me through it.

2. He makes an effort to form relationships with the people I love.

My family is a huge part of my life, and my best friends are like sisters to me, so having him get to know everyone close to me was something I so badly wanted him to do. And he did it… and then some. He and my sister are so close it’s like I’m the third wheel sometimes. I thank my lucky stars they are so close because my sister is like my other half, and the fact that he has formed a special bond with her makes me so unbelievably happy. If your dude makes time to get to know the people you love – like really know them – then you’ve locked down someone special.

3. He opens doors for me.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m an independent woman who can open her own doors, but having someone who is selfless enough to go out of his way to make it easier for you is a blessing. It’s nice every now and then to be treated like the princess I am (**major eye roll). But really – everyone should have a guy who isn’t too proud to do something nice like open a door for you every once in a while.

4. He brings me home food when I’m having a bad day.

Food is the golden ticket for me. Bring me a party sized bag of salt and vinegar chips and I’ll love you forever. He even lets me eat his French fries after I tell him I don’t want any. I hit the jackpot with this guy.

5. He lets me have a voice.

I’ve dated guys who either don’t care what I have to say or will belittle me once I do say something, and it’s one of the worst feelings in the world. To think that your voice doesn’t matter in a relationship isn’t healthy, and it also isn’t right. My husband and I don’t agree on everything we discuss, but he lets me have my opinions and I let him have his. He doesn’t stomp my words into the ground or keep me from speaking. He wants to know how I feel and what I think about things because he wants to know me.

6. He knows that there’s always room for improvement in a relationship.

I’ve never met a guy more willing to work on our connection than the man I married. Even when we’re doing great, he knows that there’s always something we can be working on to improve our relationship. We discuss things we can work on and we also read books that go into detail about things couples can do to make their relationships better. It may sound weird — yes, we’re basically reading self-help books for couples, but I don’t get where there’s such a negative stigma around books that are meant to help you be better! They’ve helped us tremendously and they even help us get to know each other better. He always wants to make sure our relationship is the best it can be.

7. He loves me in ways that are unnatural for him.

One of the books that really changed our relationship was The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. You can go online and take the test to figure out what is your top love language, but reading the book helps tenfold. By reading it, my husband and I figured out that we love and feel love in totally opposite ways, and because we normally give love the same way we accept it, we both have to make intentional strides in our love languages with one another. He has to go out of his way and do things that don’t come naturally to him to make me feel loved, and he does. He is so amazing in this way because I know how hard it is for me to love him the way he needs to be loved, and I know he goes out of his way to make me feel loved every day.

8. He always wants to know how my day went.

At the end of the day we always do highs and lows. We both exchange the high of our day and the low of our day. It’s one of the best parts of my day because sometimes we get so busy that we don’t really get to talk about how our day went, but when we do our highs and lows, it really makes sure we find out how each person’s day went. When we were dating and not living with one another, this was a lot more difficult, but he always made sure we did it one way or another.

9. He tells me he loves me every day.

There’s not a day that goes by where he forgets to tell me he loves me. And it never feels like a routine because he always tells me why he loves me that day, and it makes me feel so special.

10. He watches my shows with me.

Even though he rolls his eyes when I tell him I want to watch The Bachelor, he will still cuddle with me on the couch, give me a hand massage, and sporadically comment about how “Nick asked dumb questions” on his one-on-one dates.

11. He doesn’t keep anything a secret from me.

If a girl texts him or tries to hit on him, I’ll be the first to know because he’ll text me about it or tell me when I get home. And I can admit that this gets annoying sometimes, but because he does this, I know that he wouldn’t keep anything bigger than these instances a secret from me. Because he is 100% honest with me, it makes trusting him so much easier.

12. He listens to me.

I have girlfriends who can hint at their boyfriends for months that they want a certain purse or shirt or piece of jewelry, and when their birthday comes around all they get is a stinkin’ card. If I tell my husband that I like a cute bathing suit, you can be sure that he will remember it for my next birthday. He listens to me and he remembers what I want him to remember – unless I ask him to run an errand for me or take the trash out… that’s a different story.

13. He still wants to get to know me after the time we’ve been together.

When we were getting to know each other, my husband would keep all the things he found out about me in his notepad on his phone: my favorite color, my favorite ice cream, my favorite movie, etc. He would then use these facts about me to randomly bring me a pint of cherry Garcia or bring over Hook to watch with me late at night. He worked his butt off to get to know me and make me feel special, and even after he knows most everything about me now, he still wants to get to know me.

14. He tells me I’m pretty even when I look like I just rolled out of bed.

We’ve all had those days. I think I have them more often than not, and even on those days he still tells me I look cute. Even when I’m in dirty sweats with 4-day-old hair, he tells me I’m the prettiest girl in the world.

15. He makes me want to be a better person.

My husband is the sweetest, funniest, cutest, most welcoming and loving person I’ve ever met. He’s the kind of person that helps out someone he’s just met, will invite a stranger over for dinner, and will give the shirt off his back to someone in need. He lights up every room he walks into with his presence and he becomes friends with people in an instant. He is the most wonderful human being I’ve ever met, and he tries every day to be the best person he can be. And because of him, I am becoming the best version of myself. And that’s probably the best thing he could ever do for me. TC mark